Monday 1 July 2013

Spankus Interruptus and Community

So Rick decided a little role affirmation was due Saturday night.  Overdue in fact. Life had gotten in the way a little and we were starting to distance a little.  Plus, Scrappy was starting to come out to play. Oh, yeah, there might just have been a couple of minor rules breaks too.

I went to the bedroom, undressed and kneeled waiting for him.  As has become his modus operendi recently.  Have I mentioned I hate being naked and kneeling?  It makes me feel so exposed and vulnerable.  Which, I suppose is exactly why he insists on it.  I digress.

After a few minutes when he knew I would be in position, Rick walked in and started talking to me while stroking my hair.  He asked me how I was feeling.  How connected and how submissive I was feeling etc.  We talked for a while then he stood me up, we cuddled then he started to position me over the end of the bed ....

Bang, bang, bang, bang

S*** What was that?

Exasperated look from me

Is that someone at the door?

Uh-ha

Get dressed quick in case

I went to get dressed and could hear Rick talking to the 'visitors'.  The voices didn't sound familiar so I knew it wasn't friends, neighbours or family.  I soon heard the door close and Rick was back in the bedroom.  I looked at him quizzically.

Members of the LDS church

Seriously?  Now?!

I told them I was in the middle of something with my girl

You did not!

Big grin

Damn, now I've lost my mojo

Lets just say, it didn't take him long to re-discover his mojo and the spanking soon began with earnest.  Thank goodness they knocked on the door when they did and lot a few minutes later!

We continued with some 'play time' later on and I was once again naked and kneeling.  This time with my hands bound and blindfolded ... that's all I'm sayin about that :)

For my 'friends' who commented on my earlier post wanting to hear about Rick's new belt and how it felt compared to the old one.  The belt did come into play during RA but not with the usual intensity and he was also 'applying' it in a different manner than usual.  (He said something about breaking it in .. humph!). That means it is difficult to compare the two from a pain perspective.  I can say though that it felt quite different to the older belt.  Much thuddier.

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Onto more serious matters.  I have been both amazed and saddened by the recent goings on in our little corner of blogland.  The level of support for little Emily and Jim and Christina has been truly incredible.  This is where this community shines. We support, comfort and encourage each other and when one of us is in need, we all rally.  That is community.

I am saddened by the impact 'that article' has had on blogland.  We have lost several bloggers while some have elected to make their blogs private and others have retained their blogs but indicated they will likely not be posting or commenting much in future.

I understand that the article itself is not the reason for some having made the decisions regarding their blogs that they have and I firmly believe that each of us has to do what is right for ourselves and our families.  I do believe though, that the article has been the catalyst for many of us examining our place and our existence within this community and causing some to be nervous of their participation in it. This is of course, a perfectly natural and completely understandable reaction.  As I said above, we all have to do what we feel is right for ourselves and our families.  I just hate to think that this article may be the catalyst for some deciding to leave this community.  I worry in particular that this attention may cause new bloggers to second guess their decision to blog and their presence in this community.

The thought that this article may possible cause some couples to second guess the choice they have made to live this lifestyle concerns me.  Particularly those new to ttwd. I sincerely hope this is not the case.  We choose this lifestyle and know that it works for us.  That is what matters.

Take the naysayers and Rita Skeeter's with a grain of salt. In my opinion, unless you are in this lifestyle, I think it is almost impossible to fully appreciate and understand it.  In particular how it is not abusive.  Unless you live this lifestyle, I think it is impossible to understand the many ways in which is enriches relationships and the positive benefits to be gained, both on a individual basis and as a couple.

Hang tight my friends.  Hopefully this will pass soon and blogland can return to normal.

60 comments:

  1. Agreed Roz!

    Oh gosh...I think MM would lose his mojo for a minute too. :)

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    1. Thanks Susie :)

      Yes, it took him a few minutes to 'get back in the swing' LoL

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  2. I absolutely agree with you on the last part....so hoping the dust settles quickly....

    And, I nearly died laughing about the church members coming at the "perfect" time....hahhaha! Ahem, sorry...that must have been very unnerving.... ;)

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    1. Hi Lucy,

      Oh yes, I so hope all this drama dies down soon.

      LoL, that's ok, you're allowed to laugh .. I did at your "fluffy" post .. Ahem. Yes it was rather unnerving. Put us both off our stride for a bit.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  3. Hey honey :)

    Saved by the church bell haha

    I'm too so sorry about all the goings on in Blogland and as much as I'm in hiding myself, I have to say this community has helped me and supported me in so many situations, and I know for a fact I would have have up on this lifestyle if it wasn't for the support and understanding of this community.

    Ye the article did cause a lot of stress and anxiety, but it also made me think about our identity and anonymity. Maybe it will all pass and we would all feel safe again.

    I do miss Blogland and all the wonderful people I have come close to x

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    1. Hi Missy,

      LoL, only saved momentarily unfortunately.

      I'm so glad to see you commenting. I really hope this will all pass soon and that blogland will return to normal. I especially hope that those that have "hidden" (for want of a better term) do feel safe to rejoin us. This really is such an amazing community and I can't stress how much the support, encouragement and advice from everyone here has helped me.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  4. Glad that Ric was able to take care of "everything".

    I agree with you on the last. Now blogger seems to be sending warnings to some of the bloggers. Don't understand why it can't just be live and let live.

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    1. Hi Sunny,

      I agree entirely, live and let live. We may not necessarily understand a person, or their chosen lifestyle, but we should respect the differences between us. Thank goodness it doesn't appear, that I have detected anyway, that we have lost anybody because of the blogger policy.

      I so hope all this dies down and our little corner can return to normal soon.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  5. Hi Roz, being practising your latin? I'm glad Rick didn't lose his mojo!
    As for blogging, it may put some off from blogging, which would be a shame, as I've learnt so much about myself from reading and writing blogs. It will take a while for the dust to settle, and the landscape will feel different but hopefully we'll be able to keep spirits up. (It's that British Dunkirk spirit thing in me)

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    1. Hi DF,

      LoL, it put us both of our stride momentarily.

      I so hope the dust settles sooner rather than later. It's such a shame that it has resulted in some of our friends leaving to community and I hope too that they will feel 'safe' enough to return in the near future.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  6. Great post............ thoughtful and right on
    Meredith

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    1. Hi Meredith,

      Thank you for your kind words. I hope things can return to normal soon.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  7. You think church people kill your mojo, you should try having your teenage son decide to come home for lunch one day!!!!

    love
    willie

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    1. Hey Willie,

      LOL and OMG ... um ... yes, that's definitely a mojo killer!

      Love and hugs,
      Roz

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  8. First, thanks for the hot account.

    Second, I agree about the lifestyle. You must feel it and experience TPE. We are very lucky to have felt it and experienced the excitement and power of TTWD.

    Terrific post Roz.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Hi Joey,

      Thank you so much. You're welcome :)

      I couldn't agree more. We are lucky indeed! I don't think it is possible to fully understand this dynamic, or appreciate the benefits unless you live it.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  9. LOL...Church people at the door! Rather interesting.
    I would have been slightly unnerved as well.
    I sure hope that all the different issues do not scare people away. I am a person who has found so much comfort, support and joy here. I hate to think that someone who needs it would not get it either.

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    1. Hi Minelle,

      I will admit, we did giggle at the irony afterwards, given recent events. It certainly put us both of our stride momentarily.

      I am saddened that this has made some re-think their participation in this community and that we have lost some blogging friends. This was a huge concern to me ... that people would leave this community and no longer receive the encouragement and support found here. I sincerely hope that this all blows over soon and that those that have left us will return in the near future.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  10. Oh my goodness that's hilarious. Of all times for the church people to visit!
    Yuck, I hate belts. So hard for FM to control and ends up stinging the same spot. Thankfully he doesn't use it anymore!!
    Everything else sounds hottt!!!
    Emily is amazing!
    I am hating what's happening to our community too. :(
    Great post :)
    Elle

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    1. Hi Elle,

      Thank you :) It certainly put us of our stride momentarily, but we did have a giggle later on. We have had our moments with the belt too. It can be a bit difficult to control and we have had the occasional problem with it wrapping.

      Such wonderful news about little Emily. A relief that she is recovering well.

      I really hope this all blows over and that our corner of blogland can return to normal soon.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  11. Hello Roz,

    Enjoyed the post. LDS at the door....what timing..LOL!
    Your words are well written and so true. Thank you.

    Blessings,
    George

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    1. Hi George,

      Thank you :) Timing indeed!

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  12. omg. i would have peed my pants (if i'd been wearing any) if i'd heard that knock at the door during maintenance. good lord!

    i loved this post. all of it. you're so sweet, roz. :)

    hugs,
    m.

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    1. Hi Maryanne,

      OMG, I loved this comment, I think I just about peed my pants reading it! LoL ... um yes, I was wearing some *wink*

      Thank you for your lovely words :)

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  13. Just because someone knocks doesn't mean you have to answer, ;) LOL!!
    Great post. I, too, am sad for those who have withdrawn from our community. I hope this passes soon!

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    1. Hi Sarah,

      Of course, so true! It was so obvious, with lights on etc, that we were home plus I think Rick wanted to make sure whoever it was went away so answered.

      I so hope things return to normal soon and also that those who have withdrawn will return in the near future.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  14. Great post Roz, Fancy knocking at such an inopportune moment, how rude lol, I too feel sad for lost bloggers, hope the dust settles soon
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Hi Jan,

      I know right? Talk about timing! Well, at lease they arrived before the actual spanking started!

      I'm sure the naysayers will find others that require 'saving' soon and our little corner of blogland will return to normal. At least I hope. I also hope that those that have withdrawn will return in the near future.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  15. naked and kneeling... hmmm i can feel you on that one. vulnerable indeed!

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    1. Hi Fondles,

      Oh definitely. It's something I still struggle a little with, especially the naked part.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  16. Well Roz, at least it wasn't your mother in law paying an unannounced visit!

    I have to admit I really quite enjoy being naked..... as for the other, well, a girl can fantasise can't she?! Maybe one day....

    Thinking about those church people - I think that Dan would probably have hung out of the window and harangued them. Or I would've! Of all the times to call....

    Many hugs

    Ami

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    1. Hi Ami,

      Ohmigosh, perish the thought!

      I am slowly getting more used to being naked. Silly I know given that Rick does see me naked but there it is. Hmm, I'm curious, are you referring to the kneeling or the 'other' I referred to? Curious minds want to know LoL A girl can definitely dream.

      LoL somehow, I can just picture you haranguing them. Yes, talk about timing!

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  17. Well I'm with you on the naked kneeling! Gotta love those unexpected visitors though...glad you all got back on track

    hugs
    bg (P Surren)

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    1. Hi bg,

      I still struggle a bit with the naked kneeling, but as I said to Ami I am slowly getting more used to it. Yes, we both lost our stride, but it was only momentary.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  18. The church people at the door? Hahaha!

    I really do hope our little world can return to normal one day soon. ;)

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    1. Hi Betsy,

      We did have a giggle, and saw the irony of the situation given recent events in blogland afterwards. Un? fortunately it was a momentary interruption to proceedings LoL

      I sure hope things do return to normal in our corner of blogland soon.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  19. I know naked and kneeling only too well..and totally agree..so vulnerable!
    hugs abby

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    1. Hi Abby,

      I know this is something you do and also that you struggled with it too. It is still a bit of a struggle for me, but I am slowly becoming more comfortable with it. It's a great comfort and encouragement to hear others do this too and their experiences with it.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  20. At least it was strangers at the door who knocked. I've decided adult children should not have keys. But hey, the mutt earned her keep for the day by whining and letting us know someone was coming in. I keep hoping nothing was heard. I also keep hoping the kids will learn how to knock. That may be way to much to ask for since they didn't knock when they were kids. Closed doors mean nothing to children apparently. Hey it's just mom and dad. They are sooo boring.

    I hope the community is back together soon. Although I don't have a blog, I miss the people who have left. I hope they will return. C

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    1. Hi Clara,

      So true. Strangers are easy to get rid off too!

      LoL, thanks for the giggle. I guess adult children can get in the way just as much as the young ones. Good on the dog I say! Mom and Dad boring ... if only they knew!

      I so hope all of this dies down soon and that things return to normal. I also hope that those that have withdrawn will return in the near future.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  21. Hey Roz...ROFLMBO at the 'church people' at the door...reminds me of the time Jehovah's Witnesses showed up at our door at 8am for the second Sunday in a row...my ex (then my husband) answered the door in his birthday suit and his 30.06...told them they had 30 seconds to get off the porch, down the steps and out of the drive. Thanks for the laugh.

    Hopefully blog land will settle down and get back to our version of 'normal'. ;)

    Blessings,
    Cat

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    1. Hi Cat,

      Oh my, thanks so much for sharing this and giving me a giggle :) Bet they came back again though. They are nothing if not persistent.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  22. Lol, well that surely would've been a surprise while naked and kneeling but glad the mojo came back :) Hopefully the dust settles soon in blogland.
    <3 Lily

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    1. Hi Lily,

      Oh my goodness. It was a surprise, while Rick answered the door I started the mad scramble to try and get dressed in a hurry, until I heard the voices then I relaxed a bit. Put us both off momentarily.

      I too hope the dust settles soon and that things can return to normal in blogland.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  23. Roz, I'm with Sarah. You don't have to answer the door, but I like best what Cat's ex did! That's not to taken as though I'm hostile toward LDS, but I am antagonistic to persistent uninvited visitors.

    Call before you come to my home. If you don't, I may not answer the door. If I do go to the door, I doubt I would answer in my birthday suit or full dungeon regalia (because I don't own any, but now I'm thinking of getting some for my door-answering outfit :-D ), but you can bet your bustier that on my side of the door I will be armed and dangerous - with my wicked wit! ;-) Mojo interruptus - lol!

    Naked and kneeling... That doesn't make me feel vulnerable because there isn't a D/s element to it for us. I do it differently, for different reasons, simpler reasons. D doesn't appear to dislike it, though. ;-)

    The blogland issue... sigh. Ditto what you and everyone else said. I'm reminded of when I was young, and my grandma sent me to gather eggs from the henhouse. She told me to watch for black snakes because they like to crawl up in the nests to eat the eggs. Of course, I told her I wasn't going to stick my hands in there under the hens if there were snakes!

    She told me to go get those eggs, or go pick my own switch (that's double jeopardy, btw). "Those eggs are good for us and we need them to eat and bake with. The snakes aren't poisonous and won't bite you if you watch for them. Just shoo them away with a stick if you see one." Gulp. Shoo snakes, or pick my own switch? Grandma got her eggs.

    Point being, we have a lot of good things going for us here in blogland - good "eggs" to gather, if we are willing to watch for snakes and shoo them away from our treasures. The "switch" here, our punishment, is self-inflicted if we let snakes overtake the henhouse, eat all the eggs, then gobble up our bloggy hens (and roosters ;-) ).

    Okay, done with my trip down memory lane. I never thought I'd have occasion to tell that story as an (exceptionally corny) analogy.

    The thuddier belt... Enjoy. ! ? Lol!

    I hope you don't mind me coming to chatter-play on your blog. I do have my own, after all!

    Hugs,

    Irishey
    Still praying for Emily...

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    1. Hi Irishey,

      LoL, I LOVE this comment, thanks for the laugh.

      I wouldn't answer the door in my birthday suit, or dungeon regalia either. I don't have any either in case you're wondering :) Oh yes, I just bet you would give them a run for their money with your wit.

      Interesting comment about the naked kneeling. Thank you for sharing that. I do still struggle a bit with it so hearing other's experiences is great for me. Yes, I can totally see how the whole 'feel' is different for you.

      Thank you for sharing your story. What a great story! (although I doubt you thought so at the time!). Wonderful analogy. OMG, snakes! Dangerous or not, I'm with you. No thanks!

      You have an open invitation to chatter-play on my blog whenever you like. I always love hearing from you and enjoy your wit :)

      Such wonderful news that Emily is recovering well. Still sending prayers and bear hugs.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  24. Thanks for the post...too funny who showed up at your door! Haha, What timing, right???? In response to the second half of your post, I really identify with it because as a newbie, I found myself in a tough spot this past week. I really did second guess things and was very confused. Your post really encouraged me to keep on with it. So, thank you very much :)

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    1. Hi Marie,

      Yes indeed. Talk about timing!

      I read your post and am so sorry this business has made you feel this way. This was exactly my concern, that it may cause some to second guess their presence in this community, the lifestyle they have chosen or both. It really has saddened me to see the impact of this on some members of our community, including you.

      Keep communicating with your husband as you work through this and remember, when it comes to the naysayers, it really is difficult to understand this lifestyle and the wonderful benefits it brings unless you live it. It is also human nature to attack the things we don't understand.

      Try to focus on the positives this lifestyle has brought to your relationship. You have come a long way and are reaping the benefits. From reading your post I know your husband sees the benefits. We know why we wanted this lifestyle and that it works for us.

      At the end of the day, as in all things, we must do what is right for us personally as well as for our relationship. It has to be right for both of you.

      ((Hugs))
      Roz

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  25. Roz this is an awesome post full of positivity after the recent media scare and support for all our community - thank you. I admit I'm nervous about blogging at the moment expecting 60 minutes to turn up on my doorstep at anytime and with sir not knowing about my blog - well you kmow. A little dramatic obviously but you get my stuff. Anyway thank you for this post.
    The doorbell incident was funny to read but I'm glad he got his mojo back :-)

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    1. Thank you Kiwi :)

      I totally understand this, I think the recent events have made us all nervous to one degree or another.

      We did have a giggle about the doorbell incident later on. It did put us both off our stride temporarily LoL

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  26. Hopefully you never get the new belt for pain pain!!

    I just told another fellow blogger to not let any outsiders cause you to second guess what you KNOW has been working. I say to all the negative outsiders a loud "PISS OFF!!!" LOL

    Great post as usual Roz!

    ~Pink~

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    1. Hi Pink,

      Thank you :)

      Ooh, I hope not too! I'm am absolutely with you. I hate the thought of this causing some to second guess what they know works for their relationship.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  27. Hi, Roz,

    Great post, definitely would've messed up hubby's mojo too! lol.
    Naked, kneeling-I couldn't do it. I'm just not ready to be that vulnerable yet, I guess? He's slowly making me peel layers off physically and emotionally.
    Blogland-definitely crazy stuff, I'm glad that things seem to be settling down a little I still hate that others have been so attacked by this. I hope to see all them back soon, but completely understand that they need to do what is best for them and their families.

    Sassafrass

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    1. Hi Sassafrass,

      Thank you :) Yes, it definitely put us both off momentarily LoL Naked kneeling still challenges me. It definitely stretches me and makes me feel super vulnerable, which is why he insists on it.

      I hope all of this craziness will settle down soon and also that some bloggers who have left or gone private will return in the near future

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  28. Talk about bad timing!! Lol, I would have freaked out. I'm glad the mojo wasn't gone though, that's important. :p

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    1. Hi Kenzie,

      LoL, it was so close ... if they had been just a few minutes later! It did put us both off our stride momentarily, but Rick was determine to carry on with the business at hand LoL

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  29. Oh dear
    Church people would have put me off completely! Glad you could get back on track.
    I am sad by the changes in blog land. It feels not quite so safe anymore. I miss others and hope it can back a bit more to normal soon.
    J

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    1. Hi Janey,

      Yes it certainly was very unnerving and it put us both off out stride, but (un?)fortunately not for long.

      I hope this will all die down soon and also that some of our friends who have left will return in the near future.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  30. I know I'm late to the party, but I can so identify with your scenario. Years ago DH and I lived waaaaay out in the country. So far out that you had to be looking for us to find us, or so I thought. So it was one lazy Sunday and we were having vanilla playtime and someone knocked on the side door. Figuring it was friends, I threw the bedspread around me planning to just shoo them away. Walking through the living room I saw this weird woman bend down, peek in the window, grin from ear to ear and give me this ginormous wave. I got to the door and she said "Is this a bad time?" "Excuse me?" "We're Jehovah's Witnesses. Is this a bad time?" I looked at her as if she were from Mars and said, "Lady, I'm wearing my BEDSPREAD. You tell me: IS this a bad time?" She turned 8 shades of crimson and stammered "We'll come back another time." Needless to say they never did.

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    1. HI Anon,

      Oh my, please forgive me to taking so long to reply! Welcome, and thank you so much for reading and for your comment. Please feel free to comment any time. I promise I won't take so long to reply!

      Oh my goodness, that is so funny ... though I'm sure it wasn't for you at the time! At least they didn't come back I guess :)

      Hugs,
      Roz

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