Spankus Interruptus and Community

So Rick decided a little role affirmation was due Saturday night.  Overdue in fact. Life had gotten in the way a little and we were starting to distance a little.  Plus, Scrappy was starting to come out to play. Oh, yeah, there might just have been a couple of minor rules breaks too.

I went to the bedroom, undressed and kneeled waiting for him.  As has become his modus operendi recently.  Have I mentioned I hate being naked and kneeling?  It makes me feel so exposed and vulnerable.  Which, I suppose is exactly why he insists on it.  I digress.

After a few minutes when he knew I would be in position, Rick walked in and started talking to me while stroking my hair.  He asked me how I was feeling.  How connected and how submissive I was feeling etc.  We talked for a while then he stood me up, we cuddled then he started to position me over the end of the bed ....

Bang, bang, bang, bang

S*** What was that?

Exasperated look from me

Is that someone at the door?

Uh-ha

Get dressed quick in case

I went to get dressed and could hear Rick talking to the 'visitors'.  The voices didn't sound familiar so I knew it wasn't friends, neighbours or family.  I soon heard the door close and Rick was back in the bedroom.  I looked at him quizzically.

Members of the LDS church

Seriously?  Now?!

I told them I was in the middle of something with my girl

You did not!

Big grin

Damn, now I've lost my mojo

Lets just say, it didn't take him long to re-discover his mojo and the spanking soon began with earnest.  Thank goodness they knocked on the door when they did and lot a few minutes later!

We continued with some 'play time' later on and I was once again naked and kneeling.  This time with my hands bound and blindfolded ... that's all I'm sayin about that :)

For my 'friends' who commented on my earlier post wanting to hear about Rick's new belt and how it felt compared to the old one.  The belt did come into play during RA but not with the usual intensity and he was also 'applying' it in a different manner than usual.  (He said something about breaking it in .. humph!). That means it is difficult to compare the two from a pain perspective.  I can say though that it felt quite different to the older belt.  Much thuddier.

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Onto more serious matters.  I have been both amazed and saddened by the recent goings on in our little corner of blogland.  The level of support for little Emily and Jim and Christina has been truly incredible.  This is where this community shines. We support, comfort and encourage each other and when one of us is in need, we all rally.  That is community.

I am saddened by the impact 'that article' has had on blogland.  We have lost several bloggers while some have elected to make their blogs private and others have retained their blogs but indicated they will likely not be posting or commenting much in future.

I understand that the article itself is not the reason for some having made the decisions regarding their blogs that they have and I firmly believe that each of us has to do what is right for ourselves and our families.  I do believe though, that the article has been the catalyst for many of us examining our place and our existence within this community and causing some to be nervous of their participation in it. This is of course, a perfectly natural and completely understandable reaction.  As I said above, we all have to do what we feel is right for ourselves and our families.  I just hate to think that this article may be the catalyst for some deciding to leave this community.  I worry in particular that this attention may cause new bloggers to second guess their decision to blog and their presence in this community.

The thought that this article may possible cause some couples to second guess the choice they have made to live this lifestyle concerns me.  Particularly those new to ttwd. I sincerely hope this is not the case.  We choose this lifestyle and know that it works for us.  That is what matters.

Take the naysayers and Rita Skeeter's with a grain of salt. In my opinion, unless you are in this lifestyle, I think it is almost impossible to fully appreciate and understand it.  In particular how it is not abusive.  Unless you live this lifestyle, I think it is impossible to understand the many ways in which is enriches relationships and the positive benefits to be gained, both on a individual basis and as a couple.

Hang tight my friends.  Hopefully this will pass soon and blogland can return to normal.