Deep breath - here goes.
After a spanking a while back for not going to bed when instructed (on several occasions, on almost consecutive days), not following bedtime instructions the very next day after the spanking and as a result being banned from blogging and having a set strict bedtime for a week in addition to another 'major' spanking ...
...You guessed it - the other night I once again failed to follow my husband's bedtime instructions. - Oh, stop glaring at me, shaking your head and tutting - I know already! ... I said stop!
As a result, I was banned from blogging (again!) last night (thankfully just for the night) and had a strictly enforced bedtime. My husband also told me will 'talk' about this some more as well when we have our usual review. Yeah, I know exactly what that means - my backside is going to pay the price for my stupidity also. I get it, I understand, especially given the recent history with this particular issue.
My husband said I may not have missed the deadline but that much, but it is an ongoing issue, one that has only fairly recently resulted in some fairly 'robust' consequences. He also said it doesn't matter how far past the deadline I was, being late at all is disobedience. He needs to know he can trust me to carry out his instructions, esepcially when he is not with me, which is on a fairly regular basis.
I am banging my head right now. How could I have been so stupid - especially after recent events. Also, it's not that hard to achieve surely - just make sure you are organised in enough time to meet the deadline - right?
I don't know why I've been struggling with this particular issue lately - but I know I am going to have to sort it out, and fast!!
I have this same problem with quitting work at 7:30. If he's home, it's easy. At 7:27 I'll hear him rushing up the stairs to make sure I realize what time it is. If he's not here I can make a million excuses for why it would be okay to disobey just this one time. 7:35 is not okay either. They are both right, they need to be able to trust us when they are not here. Neither is an arbitrary rule, there's good reasons behind them and they are mostly about keeping us healthy. Mine worries when I get too tired.
ReplyDeleteSo...no tutting from me. I'm sorry that this will return in your "review" but yeah, I know it's good and one step closer to getting this right next time. I hope he's not too hard on you.
You can do it Roz! This will go better next week. When I struggle next week I'll think of you and cheer you on. It'll help me obey too. LOL...have you ever noticed how hard it is to type the word o-b-e-y. My fingers want to stop.
Hi Susie, thank you so much for your support and encouragement, I really appreciate it :)
DeleteI did get spanked (again!) and he pretty much reiterated everything you said - that he needs to be able to trust me and that it is about keeping me healthy.
Thanks for the vote of confidence. I'll be here to cheer you on too :)
Oh yes - o-b-e-y - my fingers want to stop too. I also tend to choke on saying the word lol
Well, don't ask us why you are doing it.
ReplyDeleteFind a mirror and ask again.
Maybe you can tell that stranger in the mirror to behave because being banned from blogging is not going to go over good with your blogging friends.
He Bas, I tried the mirror, it wasn't any help. Turns out it wasn't a magic mirror. I even tried to ask it who is the fairest in the land :)
DeleteSeriously, I get the sentiment. You are right, of course. I need to look to myself and my own motives to sort this out.
I seriously don't want to be banned from blogland (again!). I will think of my blogging friends. That will (hopefully) give me the incentive to behave :)
Ack! I don't know why you are doing it either. Sometimes I think it is easy for us to not see as much importance in certain rules as our hubbys do....those tend to be the hardest to follow, atleast for me anyway :D
ReplyDeleteYou must stay out of trouble (wagging my finger at you)because if you get grounded I will have less to read....and we can't have that :)
No really, I am pulling for you!
Hi Lucy, thank you, your comment gave me a giggle.
DeleteYou are soo right. Sometimes we don't see the importance in some rules as our husband's do and that makes them hard to follow.
My blogging friends are certainly giving me lots of incentive to sort out this little problem. I certainly don't want to be grounded (yet again!) because you can bet if I do, it won't just be for a day! besides, we can't have you with less to read :)
I will try hard to stay out of trouble - promise :)
Oh Roz - why do they have to mess around with the blogging? Does Ian really need clean socks?
ReplyDeleteI have been getting the 3rd degree lately and I have been put on notice regarding my excessive blogging.
I know there is a time limit clunking around in Ian's head and I am going to end up being restricted and I know I am not going to take it well. sigh
He is right, however, I could do this all day if I could get away with it.
Good luck, friend. :)
Hi Lillie, argh, I'm with ya sister! - I think they mess with our blogging because they know cutting us off is like cutting our arm off Lol.
DeleteOh no! Let's make a pact to help each other to try and ensure we don't get limits placed on us. I don't have one at the moment, but like you it's fast becoming a possibility and I'm not sure how well I'd take it either!
Yeah, you're lucky it was only for one night! Be very careful, Roz! We'd hate to see you grounded for longer than a night. I know, sometimes, it's just hard to manage time! Believe me, I can relate. Don't beat yourelf up too much though. Of course, we all make mistakes. Just learn from it and move on. Hope you have a great weekend, Roz. :)
ReplyDeleteHi CG, Yep, I sure was lucky it was only one day, especially given recent history! A point Rick reinforced during the spanking I also got for this - sigh!
DeleteI will be careful from now on, believe me! It's something I will be working hard at. Besides anything else, given recent history I really need to provide to Rick that he can trust me with this.
Oh gosh, with me it's always, just one more job I can finish and get a head start on tomorrow. There are never enough hours in the day, the laundry breeds (worse than rabbits!), the boys like to watch the sonic brush send white specks of toothpaste flitting all over the freshly cleaned bathroom, bedtime snacks fill the cleaned and polished sink - blech! lol so that's my story.
ReplyDeleteHi June, Lol, It is so hard sometimes to know when to stop isn't it? There is always one more job to be done. Never enough hours in the day.
DeleteOoh, toothpaste all over the bathroom - that would send me into orbit Lol
Hey, Roz. I'm not shaking my head at you. This is new-ish, plus things keep cropping up and it helps to read what others think and how they cope. It's also very helpful to learn through others's mistakes and insight, head things off before they happen, find new ways to think of things in a more mature manner.
ReplyDeleteOkay, you know all that. So, no help from Irishey's Isle. Does Rick understand your quest here, what you're hoping to learn and why, how it helps you to think things through by tapping into the ttwd/dd community, that you need/want the support of others who may have experienced similar struggles? It's not all hijinks and shenanigans on the blogs. It's educational, enlightening, and provides an outlet for unique emotional support - things not readily available to you from family and friends in your "real" world.
I don't mean for that to sound as though the two of you haven't discussed the significance of your blog participation, or that he may not have a clue. That was just me thinking out loud about the benefits, not a commentary on the justification for being allowed unlimited online time. Your physical health is important, as is the health of your relationship. Proper time management will help both. I always try to give equal weight to the underlying emotional/mental health needs that can be overlooked.
Balance and communication, love, respect, consideration, cooperation and common courtesy. These things are always easy as pie! Ha!. ;-)
Irishey
Hi Irishey, Rick is really supportive of me tapping into the blogging community and having my own blog as a means of help and support when I am struggling.
DeleteThe problem is, as you said, striking the balance between that and everything else. Not to mention, not undermining physical health by choosing the computer over getting enough rest. It is absolutely no excuse for defying his instructions either.
When any of these things occur, he steps in to correct it - a little time away doesn't hurt, and it also gives me time to gain a little perspective on priorities :)
I'm late commenting but boy do I hear you. Bedtime is a really tough one because going to sleep is not within our control. I hope you've got it all figured out now and will be able to escape further consequences.
ReplyDeleteHi Ana, It's still a work in progress. This is such a toughie for me because I am such a night owl. I am working hard at trying to keep better hours - and keeping out of trouble on this issue - no further consequences so far. I just have to try and keep it that way :)
DeleteAww I imagine it's hard to have a bedtime! I'll sometimes get told to go to bed if I'm already tired, but going to bed when I'm not tired is just not something I'd deal with very happily! (((hugs))))
ReplyDeleteHi Riley, Welcome! and thank you for reading and commenting.
DeleteIt is hard sometimes being told to go to bed, especially when there are other things I want to be doing, or if I don't feel overly tired.
Thankfully though, it's always rather late anyway by the time I am told to go and I am fairly ready. I also don't have a set bedtime right now. I hope it stays that way because I don't know how I would deal with that!