Thursday 29 August 2013

A New Look and An Update

I have been redecorating.  Did you notice??  Huh .... did ya??

A huge thank you to Wilma for creating the header and for helping me with the new background etc. Actually, help is a big understatement!  Did I mention she also has the patience of a saint. Dealing with copious emails and questions from me.

Thank you Willie!!  I truly appreciate you giving you time to my little 'project' :)


Speaking of Scrappy ... Scrappy had been keeping a low profile ... until recently that is!  (S)he has slowly but surely been making a reappearance recently.  Rick has certainly noticed this too and has commented on it.  In fact, just this evening he said something along the lines of "hmm, you really are getting Scrappy again aren't you".

I feel as though things with us have, well, stagnated.  I mean, we're not in a bad place, but we don't seem to be moving forward.  We are, dare I say it, 'comfortable' - eek! We are still dealing with issues life is throwing at us right now and it has made it difficult to take time out to just focus on us.

With following of rules being 'optional' (shall we say) and no role affirmation (or any other spanking for that matter) I feel as though I am starting to take some control back and retreating to miss independent mode.  Of course, being able to make my own decisions and not being held accountable isn't helping.

As I mentioned previously a lot of the basic structure of our dynamic remains in place.  However not being held accountable when I fail in those expectations is hard.  I am trying to maintain my submissiveness and continue to behave in the same way as before our break.  However recently I have been slipping and as much as I am trying to keep to our established rules, I am starting to let them slip.

Now why is that?  Why do I need his dominance and to be held accountable to maintain my submissiveness?  Surely I should have this.  I should be able to maintain my submissiveness without these things.  I mean, I desire this lifestyle, I desire to submit so why then is this happening? Perhaps, as much as I hate to say it, this exactly why role affirmation works for us - dang it all!

Although it feels as though we are treading water right now trust and confidence are returning and I wonder whether things will just naturally slowly return to 'normal'.  Perhaps without us even realising it.

I just have to add that we have now secured tickets to the Boss.  Yeeesss!!  They sold out very quickly so we were lucky. We tried to get our tickets in the pre-sale but by the time we tried, there were obviously only a limited number of the tickets we wanted in the pre-sale and we missed out.  As you can image, Rick was like a caged lion.  He didn't rest until the tickets went on general sale and we had obtained ours.

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  1. Ok first of all, I'm so happy that you got your tickets!!! I'm sure Rick was ecstatic!

    Of course you can't do this alone! And of course you need spanked!!! lol It's who you are. I hope that you continue to find your way back to what makes you both happiest.

    hugs
    p

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    1. Thank you P :) I'm so glad we managed to get the tickets too. Rick is over the moon!

      Honestly, I sometimes don't get why it is we need to feel their dominance in order to do the things, and behave in the way we have agreed to. I guess dominance and submission really do feed off each other.

      It's funny you now. Right now, I don't feel like I need or want to be spanked. Maybe I'm fooling myself LoL

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  2. I am so excited that you have your tickets! Yay!!

    When you both are ready you will get back to your dynamic and work out all the 'kinks.'

    Hope that mother nature has calmed.

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    1. Thank you Minelle :)

      I'm so happy we managed to get the tickets, and Rick is over the moon. It will be an awesome experience.

      We are taking things slowly, which feels right. I'm sure things will slowly return to 'normal', once the external factors die down that is!

      The aftershocks are still continuing, but, and I hate to say this ... something about tempting fate ... it does seem to have calmed a bit.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  3. Love your background!!! I really want a new one too. Every time I change, it goes back.

    I can relate to everything else too. I need his dominance for my submission.
    Hugs,
    Elle

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    1. Thank you Elle, Willie did a great job didn't she :)

      As I said to P, I guess dominance and submission really do thrive off each other. Although it does my head in sometimes wondering why I can't seem to maintain my role without his dominance. Especially when it is what I desire to do.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  4. Well done on getting the tickets, I know it can be stressful if they are popular, waiting to know if you're one of the lucky ones.
    Love the new look - would love to know how Wilma does those banners.
    I'm sure you're going to appreciate you RA once things work back to normal. Perhaps things will find their own way there.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Just google How to make your own blogger banner. It is really quite simple. I use PicMonkey now ( it is free and you don't have to subscribe to anything) Feel free to email me with any questions. ( Wilma.barney@gmail.com). I'm certainly no expert but I like goofing around with this stuff--more fun than housework! ....um sorry Roz

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    2. DF - Thank you :) I'm so glad we managed to get the tickets. It was stressful going through the process and praying it wouldn't come up allocation exhausted.

      Hmm, not sure about appreciating RA when it returns. I'm rather enjoying its absence right now and I just have to protest every time LoL. Oh ok, I'm always very happy afterwards so maybe you are right - darn it! LoL

      Willie did a great job didn't she? She is such a gem :) I see she has shared some of her 'trade secrets' above LoL

      Willie - Please don't apologise! Thank you for sharing this info. I'm sure I am not the only one who appreciates it. Thanks again for all the help you have given me too.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  5. I had to jump on the computer to see for myself but the new look is great! Good teamwork on the header too. I'm glad you guys are comfortable as you keep working on everything and getting to what works best for you guys. Lol spankings are extremely helpful aren't they. I'm so glad you guys were able to get tickets! You'll have a ton of fun!!
    <3 Lily

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    1. Thank you Lily :)

      I'm glad you like the new look. Wilma did such a great job :)

      Comfortable is good right now. We are taking things slowly which feels right at the moment. I know we will continue to slowly move forward, just as soon as the external factors die down that is!

      Spankings helpful? I wouldn't know. It's been so long since I had one LoL. Seriously, the power of a spanking never ceases to amaze me.

      I am so glad (and relieved) that we managed to get tickets. It will be a fantastic experience.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  6. a) I TOLD you not to mention me....Rick spank this woman would you!!!!

    B) on to more pressing matters- We all are aware that submission and dominance feed each other. We are all aware, that you can't be spanked into submission. What none of us can seem to grasp is WHY do we need to be spanked then based on those reasonings? Meh, who cares??? Time for you to talk lady. Talk to your 'Boss' and stop this slide back to normalcy. Good grief that is a plague worse than, well not getting Bruce tickets !

    Love ya
    willie
    ps. you can take me off as contributor to your blog now! *wink*

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    1. Hey Willie :)

      Well, I told you I would give 'proper credit', and how could I not? Also couldn't have everyone think I managed to do this on my own LoL. Let me just say again how much I appreciated your time and help on this. That was so generous of you.

      As for encouraging Rick to spank ... do I need to find new friends? ... sheesh! Just kidding. Funnily enough, I really don't feel like I need or want to be spanked at the moment. Or am I fooling myself?

      It completely does my head in when I start to think about why the need to be spanked. Oh dear, I'm not sure Rick would agree with your last statement LoL

      Love ya back
      Roz

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  7. I love your new look and love the banner. Yay for the Bruce tickets! You two will have an amazing time. I hear he does great shows with tons of energy. I'm sure you two will slip back into your HOH and submission roles. Once you live this way, it's really hard to live any other way. You realize just how much better it feels for him to be in charge, for him to have his natural, testosterone role in life.
    Hugs
    Kim

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    1. Thank you Kim :)

      I glad you like it. Willie is such a gem :)

      I'm so glad we managed to get the tickets and know it will be fantastic. He does put on a fantastic show with loads more energy than those less than half his age!

      You know, it's funny that you said 'slip back into' our roles, because I have actually been wondering whether that is exactly what might happen. Whether it will just slowly, naturally happen without a lot of conscious thought or discussion. I guess we will see. In the meantime we are taking things slowly, which feels right.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  8. Love the look, more personal.

    It will all come together at some point because you both want it to...and that is the biggest motivator...just have to adapt to the changes as they are.

    look forward to hearing about the concert....still jealous lol

    x

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    1. Thank you Tori :)

      I'm glad you like the new look. I am so thankful to Willie for her help in creating it.

      We are taking things slowly and it feels right at the moment. As I said, we are 'comfortable' and I think that's good right now. You are right though, we do both want this so I am sure things will get back on track, although it may be a slightly different track LoL.

      Soo looking forward to the concert now, and relieved we managed to get tickets. Just got to wait it out until March now!

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  9. Hi Roz, :)

    I love the new look. Willie did a great job on the banner too! Awesome!

    I'd say hold tight and let things settle in and keep talking as best that you can. Busy life can lead to interruptions, and when the time is right, you will be back doing what makes you both happy. Sending positive thoughts your way for this!

    Oh ENJOY the Boss concert!!! I'm so glad that you got tickets! It is harder and harder to get tickets to good stuff any more. We used to go to Jimmy Buffett for years, and after a while, it became impossible to get any tix. Kinda sad but they go FAST! I recently read an article (or maybe it was a clip on a news show) about why tickets are so hard to get these days. Interesting stuff. Have a great time!!! Hugs to you and hope those tremors have subsided,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Thank you Katie,

      I'm glad you like the new look. Willie did not a great job didn't she?

      We are taking things slowly, which I think it good right now and communicating. I'm sure things will slowly return to 'normal'. It may be a slightly different normal in the future though.

      I am so glad we managed to get the tickets, Rick is such a huge fan and so am I now Lol. We were sweating until we got them! You're right. It is hard these days. I think the scalpers have got a lot to answer for. We have noticed tickets for sale online at double the original price or more! Oh yes, Jimmy Buffett is awesome!

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  10. So happy (and relieved) that you were able to get tickets!!

    Congrats on the new look and banner, it looks great. It's good to know that Willie is a resource for such matters.

    Good luck on getting back to normal.

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    1. Thank you Meg :)

      Glad you like the new look. Willie is so creative and such a gem :)

      I'm so glad and relieved to have got the tickets. We were sweating it LoL We are just taking things slowly which I think is the right thing at the moment and I'm sure we will slowly work out way back to normal, although perhaps a slightly different norma.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  11. Love the new look.

    So glad you are going to get tickets for "The Boss".

    Life is a constantly changing reality and we have to move or stagnate. Maybe this is the "new" normal.

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    1. Thank you Sunny,

      Glad you like the new look. Willie is awesome! I'm so glad and relieved to have managed to get tickets. Rick is over the moon! LoL I am so looking forward to getting to see his idol with him.

      Hmm new normal without spanking? ... I hope not LoL In all honesty I'm not sure right now. We are just trying to focus on 'us' still at the moment and taking things slowly, which I think is the right thing.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  12. Oh, Roz, I loooove your new look.

    The Boss....I WANT TOO SEE HIM !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    1. Thank you Mona Lisa :)

      Glad you like the new look. Willie did such a great job and I am so grateful.

      LoL take it you're another Boss fan? yay!! I'm so glad and relieved to have managed to get the tickets. Rick is a huge fan and has seen him once but really wanted to get to see him again and this time with me. I have never seen him before. I know it is going to be an awesome experience. He puts on a fantastic show.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  13. The new look is fantastic. Laughed at your Scrappy picture.
    Yeah for getting the Boss tickets. You will have a blast.
    Dominance and submission take energy from both parties. At least for me if I am not getting dominance in return it is hard to keep sending submission his way. I want to but without his participation the dynamic does suffer. It often helps to talk about it then so we are working together instead of apart. I hope you are feeling reconnected soon.

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    1. Thank you Zoe,

      Glad you like the new look. I love the pic too. It is so us, me with steam coming out my ears "let me at em!" and Rick holding me back LoL. Of course worse when my Scrappy moments are directed at him! Oh dear, I didn't just say that did I? Unfortunately it does happen occasionally.

      Yes, I'm so glad and relieved to have to tickets. I know it will be an awesome show. I'm so looking forward to experiencing it with Rick and seeing his reaction. Bruce is his idol.

      It is so hard to maintain a submissive mindset without the dominance isn't it? I guess it shows it really is a two-way street and that the two really do feed each other.

      We are communicating and feeling connected, just not as connected as we were. We are taking things slowly which feels right at the moment and I'm sure things will eventually return to normal, although it may be a slightly modified normal.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  14. ..LOve the new look...mine is so boring.

    ...You get to see the Boss..oh, I am so jealous.

    ...I can't answer why, but you are not alone. Weekly maintenance started just for that reason,,I could not maintain my 'submissive mindset' on my own.

    hugs abby

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    1. Hi Abby, thank you :) Glad you like the new look. I'm so thankful to Willie for her help.

      Oh yay, another Boss fan! I'm so glad and relieved to have been able to get the tickets. I know it will be an awesome show.

      Funny isn't it how we struggle without the dominance. It is so true and dominance and submission feed each other. We each need to maintain our roles in order for it to work.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  15. The new look is really nice!
    Living a DD dynamic is a long and ever changing journey. Many changes can come and go along the way. As in the beginning, it won't just happen again without commitment to communicating about what the new and changing needs are for you both.
    You're such a wonderful couple, have a great time at the concert!
    Your friend,
    # MrBBSpanker

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    1. Thank you Mr BB :)

      You are so right of course, it is an every changing journey. There are times we need to take a step back and evaluate and make changes for the better. That usually means growth and that is what I am hoping for.

      We are communicating and feeling connected, just not as connected as previously. We are taking it slowly which feels right for us right now.

      I'm so glad we managed to get the tickets. I know it will be an awesome show. Bruce is Rick's idol so I am so looking forward to seeing his reaction.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  16. love the new look...

    take an implement, hand it to him, drop the pants, bender over, and wait for it. it sounds like you are craving it, badly. Maybe it's what Rick needs in order to feel that you are starting to trust more.

    hugs.

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    1. Thank you HS, glad you like the new look :)

      LoL Strangely enough, I honestly don't feel as though I need or want a spanking. Then again, that could be me trying to fool myself LoL.

      You make a good point, thank you for that. We're not quite ready for Rick to pick up the mantle ... or implement in this case LoL, but perhaps it would benefit both of us to just bite the bullet.

      We are communicating and taking things slowly, which does feel right at the moment.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  17. Yeah I agree, it sounds like you are really craving a spanking and for him to show that it does all matter. Have fun at the concert, so cool!
    ANd I love the new look, just have to get used to it first. :)

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    1. Thanks Julia, glad you like the new look :)

      It's funny, as I said above, I don't 'feel' as though I am craving a spanking, but perhaps we need to bite the bullet.

      We are taking things slowly, and that feels right at the moment.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  18. For now being in a 'comfortable' place is perhaps where you need to be. When you are both ready you will work forwards to a place of change, maybe as you had been, maybe evolving into a new dynamic, but towards what you both desire and in a place of connection. I do love the new look. :-) Hugs

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    1. Thank you Terps :)

      I think you are absolutely right. We are in a comfortable place right now and taking things slowly and it feels like it's the right thing at the moment.

      We are connecting and communicating and I'm sure things will return to 'normal' at some stage, although it may be a slightly modified version of normal.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  19. Hi Roz, I love the new look, I needed Willie as well, she has the patience of a saint, can't understand why she ever needs spanking!!.
    Great about the tickets. As to the spanking thing I know it is all off the table for now but really girl just tell him you need it back, come on bite that bullet. Once you have had that first spanking maybe things will start to return to normal and your submission will slip back into place. Good luck with everything.
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Okay....SIGH..First off I suppose it is my fault for not being around much this summer, but WHERE the heck did my ANGEL status go????? Clearly Barney has a difficult time with ttwd because I AM a saint!!!

      IN all honesty girls, you didn't require patience at all (although my cup runneth over in that department- clearly). I merely made the headers, and screen shot how to install it. It was easy right?

      So there you have it people. It is NOT difficult and I will email anyone who wants to know how to do it. BUT in truth I merely googled it myself.

      This time last year I didn't even know how to blog. LOL

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    2. Hi Jan, thank you :) Glad you like the new look. Willie is great isn't she? And she does have the patience of a saint, despite what she says .. a-hem LoL

      As I have said above, I really don't feel as though I need/want a spanking, but perhaps you ladies are right ... grrr. We are communicating and connecting and just taking things slowly, which feels right at the moment.

      LoL Willie, yes I'm sure Barney has a difficult time with ttwd and your angel status LOL. Well ... installing the banner was easy, I'll give you that. The background not so much. I had all sorts of 'fun' trying to get colours to work etc and couldn't figure out how to get the 'inner' background.

      I'm such a novice at this and learning all the time.

      Thank you so much for sharing you knowledge here. I really appreciate it and I'm sure I'm not the only one :)

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  20. I think, like you said, things will slowly return back to normal without you realizing it at all! One day you'll realize it's just as it was before.

    Love the new look! :)

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    1. Thank you Kenzie, glad you like the new look :)

      Yes, I do wonder if things will just naturally slowly return to normal, although it may be a slightly different normal.

      At the moment we are in a 'comfortable' place and communicating and connecting. We are taking things slowly and that feels right for us at the moment.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  21. Isn't a new look just what a girl needs sometimes Roz? As for the other, yeah, you'll flow, or trip and fall, or leap :) back towards "normal" before you know it.

    Sara

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    1. Thank you Sara :)

      I'm sorry I am so late in replying. Oh yes, one definitely needs a new look from time to time! LoL

      Yes, I guess you are right. It is going very slowly though LoL. We talked again today and he told me he likes where we are at but that he also doesn't see us not getting back to normal and that there is no rush.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  22. SO glad you got your tickets. :) Caged animal huh? That would have been very interesting to see. :) Sorry about the role affirmation being something that looks soon to be in your future, but something tells me you'll feel more settled if you were to give it a go? And I LOVE the new background, especially the photo of Scrappy and Scooby. :) Love the colours too. :)

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    1. Thank you Es May :)

      I'm sorry I am so late in replying. Oh yes, Rick was definitely like a caged animal until we got the tickets LoL. In fact, I think he could have benefited from a stress relief spanking :) ... of course, I did NOT just say that *innocent whistling*.

      Glad you like the new look :) Willie did such a great job. Especially on the banner. I love that pic, it is so us. Me getting all Scrappy "let me at em" and Rick holding me back LoL.

      We are still taking things slowly but are in a good place. He told me just today that he likes where we are right now but that he also doesn't see us not going back to 'normal'. I do miss the dominance and extra connection though.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  23. I thought I replied the other day..love the look..I been looking for a new one but can't find the right one...

    anyway good for you

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    1. O and everything will be back around in no time and u will be back on track
      big hugs

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    2. Thank you Daisy :) I'm sorry I have taken so long to reply.

      Glad you like the new look :) We are still taking things slowly and are in a good place. I do miss the dominance and extra connection of ttwd though.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  24. Roz,

    Forgive me for being late to the party!
    I love the new look.
    And so happy to hear that you have those tickets locked up!

    Being comfortable isn't horrible...perhaps you will get to exactly where you want to be but I think its far more important to be communicating and connecting ;o)

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    1. Hi Bleuame,

      Nothing to forgive. Never too late :) I sincerely apologise for my tardiness in replying though.

      Oh yes, Rick is over the moon to have the tickets .. we both are!

      I agree. Being comfortable isn't horrible and it is more important to be communicating and connecting. We are doing both of those and are actually in a good place, just a different place. I do miss the dominance and extra connection that ttwd provides though.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  25. hi I love the new look. Although it's going slow, I'm glad that things are going forward for the two of you. :)

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    1. Thanks Saturn :) I'm sorry I am so late in replying.

      It's going very slowly LoL. We actually talked some more today and Rick told me he liked where we are at right now and we agreed there is no rush. I do miss the dominance and extra connection that ttwd provides though.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  26. I've lost all my notifications for some reason, and haven't gotten around to figuring out out and fixing it.

    I'm glad The Rock got his tickets to The Boss!

    What in the heck is "normal" anyway? Comfortable is a really good place to find yourself when you are taking time needed to, well, re-find yourselves. Patience pays off.

    How many times have you read someone who wrote she didn't want a banana, but found she really needed one after she got it? I've read that a lot.

    I wonder how many times it has *not* been written that someone found she didn't need that banana right then, after all? I have only read it a few times, so perhaps it isn't common. However, these ttwd blogs are written, mostly, by banana-os or those with bananas in their dynamics, so I think it's more common with banana-nos. (Tipping my fruit brim to Willie and Susie.)

    My point is that it really isn't about whether Scrappy needs the banana right now to feel and be more submissive. Trust is more important, and is crucial to being able to offer a submissive heart and nature. Perhaps it would be enough for now, to reassure and remind you of how you want to feel, if your rock were to simply thank you or show his appreciation for signs of submission from you that particularly resonate with him. Not directing you in it in any way, but encouraging signs of it that elicit a positive reaction for him.

    Or, maybe I should do my thinking to myself. As always,these are merely thoughts thrown out here for you to chew on. Spit them out if they don't taste good to you. I'll still be here, cheering you on!

    Hugs...

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    1. Thank you Irishey :) I'm sorry I have taken so long to reply.

      LoL Willie and Susie and their 'fruit'! I don't think I will ever understand the love/hate relationship with bananas. I do find I don't want it ... until afterwards (unless it's for fun our course :)

      You are right of course, trust is crucial in being able to submit, and that is rebuilding. Confidence is also vital and this really knocked Rick's confidence.

      It does feel as though my submission is almost non-existent at the moment, although I do try and don't know if Rick would agree with me or not. We are taking things slowly still but are in a good place. I do miss the dominance and extra connection that ttwd provides though.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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    2. I keep thinking about you and others who have hit this bump and derailed their ttwd train, accidentally or deliberately. Consequently, they miss the dominance and elevated connection felt when ttwd was present.

      I am, obviously, not a ttwd expert, but I do understand. If you don't mind hearing this from vanilla girl, I suggest you pick 3 small things that previously worked very well for you within the ttwd dynamic, and do those things with the understanding they are there for the sole purpose of maintaining (re-establishing) that closer connection possible only through his dominance and your submission. I suggest 3 small, yet distinct, things because 1 thing will feel too isolated and tokenish. Two things are much better, but if you can incorporate 2, then you can easily add a third, thus giving you more opportunities to experience the dominance/submission and connection in a way that is not too difficult or encompassing. That makes it non-threatening to your currently fragile (for lack of a better word) comfort level.

      I suggest this because I know how the passage of time makes it more difficult to talk about certain things. It becomes awkward to do some things. It causes a different comfort zone and it becomes uncomfortable to step out of that zone into a new one - even if you've been there before. So, keeping a few things that emulate or signify elements of the full-blown dynamic, you have solid stepping stones in place to visit ttwd island. That ttwd place continues to feel familiar and safe. You are prepared for that time in the future when you are ready to move back onto your ttwd island and live there again.

      Have I mentioned you may need to take what I write with a grain of salt? I just throw things out there as food for thought. In your case, I believe you have a truly good man, and you really want to feel his dominance and have that cost connection. I want you to find a way that works for both of you. You both deserve to have and feel the best for yourselves and each other.

      Hugs, my scrappy friend! ;-)

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    3. Hi Irishey,

      Awe, thank you so much for thinking of us and coming back. It is so sweet of you and I really appreciate it.

      I think your suggestion and reasons behind it make a lot of sense. We have tried to keep elements of the dynamic flowing, certain rules etc. Partly because they are things that are now important to us - dd or no dd and for the reasons you have stated. More recently though they are starting to slip a bit.

      We have actually just started to talk about resuming so I don't think it will be too long before we start taking baby steps back to ttwd island.

      Thank you again. I really appreciate your comments and support :)

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  27. It looks very nice! Cheerful with a bit of humor added in. ;) Stagnant isn't good, but I imagine that won't last for long. Glad you got your tickets! :)

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    1. Thank you Grace :)

      It does feel as though we are stagnant right now, yet still in a good place and connecting and communicating. We are starting to talk about resuming now so I suspect you may be right :)

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  28. I have been giving a great deal of thought to why anyone would "need his dominance" to feel submissive. I almost find myself tying it to the animal world and out sort of animal nature. Is that bad? What I mean is that animals that pair bond or lead packs as alphas (alpha male, alpha female) often have those shows of dominance things like nips and body checks. I wonder if we aren't a bit like that. I find myself wondering if as competent capable women we (or maybe just I) sometimes need to see that he is paying attention and isn't going to allow me to walk on him. I wonder if I don't need something to remind me that I can be strong because he is strong. Does that make any sense at all (ugh, eye roll at myself).

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    1. Hi Cygnet,

      This makes total sense to me. Dominance and submission go hand in hand and each seem to need the other in order the really thrive. They really do seem to feed off each other.

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      roz

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  29. so...I don't know if this is helpful or not but have you ever read Created to Be His Helpmeet? It's kind of...ummm...conservative and even has a little bit of what I would call legalism...but I think it's really really good for practical advice on how to be submissive to our husbands, how to have a good relationship...and just what OUR responsibility is....instead of focusing on his. you can get it used on amazon. You may enjoy it since you are wanting so desperately to have a healthy marriage and maintain your roles but you don't have that accountability as much. ??

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    1. Hi Ashley,

      Thank you for this. No I haven't read this. Sounds interesting and will have to look into it. I think we are beginning slowly but surely to take steps back to ttwd now.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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