WARNING. This is a somewhat jumbled venting post and contains no spanking (well details of anyway :) Proceed with caution at your own peril Lol
This week has been a bad one, both for us personally and our little country.
This week has been a bad one, both for us personally and our little country.
Yesterday a tornado ripped through part of one of our major cities killing 3 people, injuring a number of others and displacing a number of businesses and families.
While it didn't affect us and may not sound that bad, it was a fairly newsworthy event for little old New Zealand (and overseas from what I gather). My heart goes out to those families who lost loved ones and to those dealing with the aftermath and clean up or who are affected in some way.
It has also been a bad week for us. There just seems to have been a number of things that cropped up that have caused both of us, mainly my husband, a ton of stress.
Before I continue, there is something you need to know about my husband. He has two great loves - astronomy and Bruce Springsteen. Ok, two great loves that is besides me :)
Bruce is in the middle of a world tour at the moment and since the tour was announced we have been watching keenly for details of tour dates. NZ is normally too small to attract big acts, but for various reasons, we held a small glimmer of hope that the tour would reach our shores.
This week, tour dates for our part of the world were announced. The news we got wasn't good. There are to be no New Zealand concerts, but several across Australia.
No problem right? It is just across the ditch. Book some tickets already! Only problem is, for us that ditch may as well be the other side of the world. It is not achievable for us.
No problem right? It is just across the ditch. Book some tickets already! Only problem is, for us that ditch may as well be the other side of the world. It is not achievable for us.
We are both disappointed, but my husband is simply gutted, especially on top of the other stresses during the week. My heart aches for him. I feel awful and it's worse knowing there is absolutely nothing I can do to make it better.
I am going to unashamedly ask you, my bloggy friends, to help me try to cheer him up by leaving him some empathetic comments.
On top of the stresses this week and my husband's bitter disappointment, the HORRORMOANS have started to kick in for me. What does that mean? Yup - heeeello Scrappy!
Reading through the blogs there seems to be something in the air at the moment. It seems a number of us are struggling with submission and respect at the moment. Let me tell you. I have not been immune this week! Scrappy is well and truly with me, spurred on no doubt by the HORRORMOANS - Argh!
This unfortunately also seems to be a pattern for me this time of year. The stress of the season turns me into this.
Today has been particularly bad. This post of Susie's comes to mind. Not only have I been grumpy and disrespectful to my husband on an alarmingly regular basis this week, but I had to deal with some buck passing etc at work today. Result? I was b****y with almost everyone at work today, whether they deserved it or not. Ok, none of them deserved it. My husband, of course, is less than impressed by my behaviour.
At lunch time I dragged my poor suffering still disappointed husband round some shops trying to get more of the Christmas shopping done. I showed him something which he said was a tad expensive. I then pouted and started muttering words such as "I give up", "I quit", "Iv'e had it", "what's the point, you're going to say no" etc. Yes, I can hear you gasping now. Oh shut up, I know!! - childish tantrum.
At one point my husband said "I need to take you home and spank you". And later "you need a spanking".
It hasn't happened - yet!
Maybe he's right - Sigh!!
Rick sorry about not being able to see the Boss. Even though we live in Canada and on the big old continent that has a lot of great musicians they rarely come in our general direction, and this place here is quite large to just skip over to whatever city your favourite act is playing in. I understand you disappointment.
ReplyDeleteRoz...I put this on my blog, but I'll repeat it here to, well because it is R/A day and I am not that creative to think of something new.
Put Scrappy out to play with the other pooches. No dogs in the house. Make yourself a ' Kiss of Submission Tea" ( see blog for recipe) and blast the Xmas music.
Cold Canadian Kisses
Willie
Hi Wilma, thank you so much for your kind words to Rick. I guess it is even worse if there is a tour within your own country you can't get to. Of course, not so much an issue here.
DeleteI took your advice and put Scrappy out and I'm happy to say it's been mostly successful, but he does manage to creep back inside every now an then.
I'm feeling less stressy and more christmassy (believe it or not!). We went out and did some shopping together over the weekend and achieved a bit so some of the stress has gone.
Thanks for the recipe. Sounds great, will definitely have to try it!
Thank you so much for your email too. It was such a lovely thing of you to do and touched us both.
Love and Hugs
Roz
Ahhh, Roz and Rick I am so sorry....stuff like that just flat out stinks :( I hate that you have to be disappointed.
ReplyDeleteRoz...something is indeed in the air. I got spanked over our darn Christmas tree. Yes...really.
I am hoping things look up for both of you.
Hugs.....
~Lucy
Hi Lucy, thank you so much for your lovely words, we really appreciate it.
DeleteBah humbug - getting spanked over the Christmas tree!
I am feeling a lot more centered, and less stressy now, thank goodness! We are getting back on track.
Thank you for your lovely email too, that was was very sweet of you. I have 'mostly' managed to ditch Scrappy again .... well, for now anyway!
Hugs
Roz
I'm so sorry that you guys aren't going to get to see the Boss.
ReplyDeleteI know what it's like to hope that they'll come to your country and then be disappointed that they're passing you by.
As for the Christmas stresses, it gets to me too, but maybe my solution of NOT putting up the tree isn't going to work for you. How about you don't try and squeeze everything in between stuff, and set aside a Christmas-shopping/prep-day that you and Rick and spend TOGETHER n let HIM be the boss of everything. You just have to concentrated on being sweet and loving and his companion for the day :)
(I'm only saying this cos when I try and do this on my lunch hour I get very stressed out. I don't cope well under time pressure!)
Hi Fondles, thank you so much for your support, we both appreciate it.
DeleteWe did set aside some time over the weekend to go Christmas shopping together and achieved quite a bit so I am feeling much better and less stressy overall now.
He did make all the final decisions on what we bought and when I started to feel a bit angsty a couple of times, I managed to breath through it and remain sweet :)
Hugs
Roz
Oh Roz you know I know exactly what you are saying and feeling. I was better for a bit but it's still not right and I am fighting it as I'm typing this comment. Hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteHave you tried writing to the Boss. Sometimes a heartfelt letter will get through to somebody on his staff and get a positive response. It's worth a try.
Hope things get better soon.
Hi Sunny, thank you so much for your support, we both really appreciate it.
DeleteSome of the stress has subsided now, partially thanks to a Christmas shopping spree at the weekend together, and I am feeling much better.
I have mentioned writing to Bruce to Rick, we will see.
Hugs
Roz
Hey Rick - So sorry you will be unable to see the Boss. I do understand how you feel - he's one of my favorites also. I live in the Midwest but it seems as if he always plays a large city on the other side of the state! :( Tour bookers just plain suck!!!!
ReplyDeleteRoz dear - hang in there - horrormoans and this stressful season will soon be over. Hope the weekend goes better for you.
Blessings,
Cat
Hi Cat, it's maddening isn't it? Tour promoters do suck!
DeleteThank you for your kind words. We did have a good weekend, and managed some Christmas shopping together so I am now feeling less stressed.
Hugs
Roz
Roz, it indeed looks like an epidemic. But mostly I see happy endings.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it great that Rick, although mistreated by the Boss and, even worse, taken on a Christmas shopping tour, still exactly sees what you need?
Spank that Scrappy!
Um thanks Bas ... I think! Lol
DeleteHappy to say Scrappy has 'mostly' departed again (for now at least) and I am feeling much more back to where I should be and less stressed. I got there without a spanking too! though I think I was very lucky to get through without one!
Rick and I set aside some time at the weekend to tackle some more shopping together (poor man), and that has taken some of the stress off.
Hugs
Roz
Rick, sorry you won't be able to see Bruce. I love music so I feel your pain. When you want to go see someone and can't well it's tough (that is the polite blog way to say it!).
ReplyDeleteHowever, I know you have a GREAT gal there with you who could provide lots of bedroom entertainment and after awhile disappointment will fade to the background:)
Roz, sorry about all that you have going on personally and in your country. As you say....our hearts go out to hurting people.
Well, love the one you love & I've given you an assignment above. You have some seduction duties to get to now! Hugs.
Hi SNP, thank you for your kind words and for that assignment. Great idea, and fun ... though I'm not sure if my seduction techniques will take his mind off the Boss Lol ... but I will sure give it a go!
DeleteI am feeling much better now, and more back to where I want to be.
Hugs
Roz
Wow
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry about the tornado in NZ. I had no idea that small, island countries were plagued with that kind of phenomenon.....so sorry for your countrymen and yourselves.
Maybe there will be a video released of the concert that you can purchase for Rick? Or perhaps do something extra special and sexy the night of the concert to take his mind off it? Like a sexy salute to his music, with you doing a special thing for him with two or three favourite songs?
Thinking about treating him in the wake of his disappointment could help with your submission.
Also - are your feelings tied to this disappointment of Rick's because it makes him seem a little vulnerable - you know, the fact that he can be let down....?
Just putting it out there for brain fodder....
hugs and love
lillie
Hi Lillie, thank you so much for your lovely words and support. We didn't really used to her of tornados here in years gone by, but they have become more frequent in recent years. It is sad when the cause such devastation.
DeleteThank you for the great ideas. I will keep an eye out for a DVD of the concert. As for the other idea ... will probably try that too :)
Your last two paragraphs strike a chord with me. Rick had a bad week last week with a few stresses to deal with, then came the disappointment of finding out there would be no concerts here. I do find if he is stressed or not fully 'on', my submission goes out the window and I start to fall back into old habits.
It is some frustrating because those are the times I should be more submissive and supportive.
We are both feeling much better now though and I am more back to my normal self.
Hugs
Roz
I'm sorry for the families affected by the storm, I'm glad that you weren't among them. And I'm most sorry you won't get to see Bruce.
ReplyDeleteYou could always ask, Roz, might help both of you feel better. (ducks)
Ok June (throws cushion), please leave the room ... the exit is to your left. Just kidding.
DeleteSeriously, thank you for your kind words. We are both feeling much better and less stressed now. Rick has been wonderful and supportive and has given me space to ditch Scrappy and get back to my normal self. I am so lucky I got through without a spanking though!
Hugs
Roz
So sorry you are not able to go to the concert. Maybe there will be some on dvd. As to the hormones....I have nothing good to say, since they S**K.
ReplyDeleteHi Minelle, good point, will keep an eye out for a DVD, thank you :)
DeleteLol - you are so right about the hormones - argh! Thankfully, I am feeling a lot better, and a lot less stressy now and working my way back to where I should be.
Hugs
Roz
Thank you everybody for your words of empathy.
ReplyDeleteAs Roz has told you I am a big fan of The Boss and was lucky enough to see him in Auckland in 2003. I was hoping that he would play Auckland again next year when he came to Australia and its been a big dream of mine to see him with my Rozzie at my side. It is very disappointing that it won't be happening.
But still, I have my Rozzie and as long as I have her I can face any disappointment and rebound. She gives me strength in so many ways and I am so proud and extremely blessed that she is my wife and that she has entrusted me to lead us on this incredible journey.
Yes she is struggling a little at the moment to be where she wants to be and where I want her to be and I am struggling a little too but she is making great strides every day to embrace her submission and it will not be long before we are both in our happy place.
Finally I would like to thank you all for all the support you give to Roz and to me, this is an awesome community and we feel so lucky to be a part of it
Warm wishes
Rick
Hi Roz! As sunnygirl has warned the lot of us, there seems to be something in the air this week that makes everything harder and us feistier! I'm so sorry that you and Rick can't go to the concert. I hate when fun things like that are just out of reach. I also heard about the tornadoes and was surprised...we don't usually associate those with your neck of the woods. It's one thing when it causes chaos and quite another when folks are hurt and there are casualties.
ReplyDeleteIt was good to see Rick write here. Hi Rick! I hope you find something very special to do this Christmas with your Rozzie at your side. :)
Hang in there Scrappy...hope you got through your Saturday without a bottom blistering.
HI Susie, thank you so much for your kind words, we both really appreciate it.
DeleteIn years gone by we never used to hear much of tornados here, but there have been more of them in recent years. it is sad when they cause such devastation.
There definitely is something in the air at the moment! We did have a good weekend, and I managed to get through without a spanking - I think I was very lucky to manage it!
Rick was wonderful and supportive and gave me the space I needed to sort myself out. I am feeling much better and less stressed and heading back in the right direction. We both are.
Hugs
Roz