Unfortunately, there is a flip side to this. Rick is very adept at the 'text lecture' - sigh. Personally, I much prefer to receive the loving or saucy text messages from him but every once in a while it goes the other way, and that's what happened the other day.
Rick was away and as I think I've said on here before, when we are apart we have strict text rules. I have set times I am to check in with him. I was busy running around juggling a few things at once that night (including replying to comments on here and reading some other blogs - oops!) and a text deadline passed. I had forgotten to text, pure and simple.
Uh-oh, oh no, this is not going to go down well! Especially since I had just been so busy with different things that I forgot. What do I do? Well, obviously this was not a case of having to come clean. The deed was done and he already knew it. The choice, however, was how I explained my failure to text on time. Hmm, what to do - if I tell him the truth, he may ground me from the blogs for a while, given that was part of the distraction. What will he do? Will he do anything? I could tell him an important call came though, neighbour needed help, the cat got sick or something.
I couldn't. I knew I had to tell him the truth and face whatever the consequences may be. I simply can not lie to Rick. He deserves my complete honesty. I knew I couldn't handle the guilt either if I tried to lie my way out of it. I felt terrible. How could I have literally forgotten? Not to mention of course that lying is a huge no no in a Dd relationship.
The other thing is that Rick has had continual problems off and on with receiving text messages so we are fairly vigilant to make sure we check whether messages are being received or not. I also knew he would be wondering whether the phone was playing up again.
Forgetting to send a text may seem minor, or trivial on the surface, but this rule is his way of protecting me when he can't be with me. His way of making sure I am safe and it is important to him. Therefore, it is important to me.
I sent the text, apologising for missing the deadline and explaining that I had juggled too many things and had just not managed my time properly and forgotten. I even said that I had spent time on the computer replying to comments and reading posts. Ok, maybe I didn't have to go quite that far with my honestly.
I then waiting with baited breath for a reply. The following is the reply I received.
Hey sweetheart, was beginning to think maybe the phone was playing up when your text didn't come though within timeframe. Not happy with you being late. We will talk about this (meaning, of course "we will spank about this"). I am going to head to bed. You may stay up but no later than 1am. Don't disappoint me on that as well.
The text did also include some loving words and a goodnight.
Um, oh boy - yes Sir! Let me tell you, these text lectures have just about the same kind of effect on me as face to face lectures.
I scurried around to finish what I needed to and made sure I made the bedtime deadline. There was no way I was going to add to breaking the text rule. More importantly though, I really didn't want to disappoint my husband any further.
We did 'talk' about it later by the way. Oh - you want details? Haven't you people got better things to do? LoL
Yep, I much prefer the fun, loving and saucy messages!