Spank-free For A Month

I've done it - a whole month spank-free!

I don't know if I've ever made it to a month before and to be honest, I'm not quite sure how I managed it.  In fact, I have almost made a month without any punishment at all.  The only blight has been having to write pesky lines for making a bill payment late (argh!).  Oh, and one warning (sigh).

Ok, now for the bad news ... there have been a couple of minor, teeny, weeny issues over the last week which could result in a spanking so who knows how much longer I will go spank-free.

This leaves me with one question.  Has my bottom become 'de-conditioned' to spanking?

Spank-a-noia

I suffer from spanking paranoia, or spankanoia.

What I mean by this is that when my husband decides a spanking is warranted I am sometimes overcome with an overwhelming paranoia that someone will hear us.  Visions of neighbours banging down the door to find out what is going on dance through my head and I find it hard to concentrate on anything else.

Of course, this is an issue faced by all DD couples, how to spank 'privately' and there are ways around this I know, such as quiet implements, sound proofing the bedroom etc.

On one occasion, a neighbour dropped in to visit very shortly after a spanking.  I have wondered ever since whether she had heard something and thought she had better come over and check.  Though, of course, nothing has ever been said.

Our private life is just that - it's private.  We don't openly share the domestic discipline aspect of our relationship with family and friends (or anyone for that matter).  Though I think it's fairly obvious to most that Rick is the decision maker and that I defer to him.

My husband would never choose a time to conduct a spanking where there may be any likelihood of us shouting it out to the world (so to speak).  I know this, yet sometimes, the paranoia kicks in ... What?  Are you kidding?  You can't spank me now!

I try to trust in the decision my husband has made, submit to the discipline and focus on the issue that got me in this predicament in the first place.  Funnily enough, once the spanking commences my focus usually changes and the paranoia subsides.

Doctor and HoH Unite

Ok, so this is a little ironic given my last post.  Payback perhaps even ... but today I have been home sick instead of at work.

I have had a cold over the last week.  Yep, that's all, a plain old fashioned cold.  No big deal, take some Codral "woman flu" and get over it already!  Except - I have ongoing respiratory problems.  Therefore EVERY time I get a cold, it ends up with a respiratory infection that leaves me with a constant, nasty and draining cough and short of breath and I end up on antibiotics and steroids.  It's not pretty.

Well, this time is no different so yesterday I went to the Doctor and was given the familiar prescription of antibiotics and steroids.  I didn't see my usual doctor.  In fact, I saw a rather nice young chap ... but I digress, sorry about that.  Anyway, near the end of the consultation he asked me about work and said you're not going to work now are you?  I replied that yes I was planning to.  He told me I need to be getting plenty of rest and taking it easy instead of going to work.

In the end he conceded to me going into work for the rest of the day BUT said that I really needed to take the rest of the week off and rest.  At the very least Friday and have a long weekend.  With that I left and stoically proceeded to work.

Needless to say, my husband was less impressed with my show of stoicism, and in particular that I had not strictly followed Doctors orders.  He then said that I was forbidden to go to work today and was to stay home and rest.  Hence, today I was home sick.  Guess I will have to see what happens tomorrow.

My husband told me this evening that he visited one of our favourite cafes today for a takeaway coffee and the owner commented that he was without his wife and asked after me.  My husband told her I was unwell and that he had left me in bed.  She asked him to pass on her best wishes to me.  He told me that made him feel extremely proud and warm at that moment.

I feel important to my husband and cared for.  He is my life, and my rock.

Man Flu

It's about time - Finally a cure!









 Anyone need this in their medicine cabinet?











(Warning - does contain explicit language!)

The ABC's of TTWD

In response to Stormy's request, here is my list of the first word (or in this case, words) that come to mind for each letter of the alphabet when thinking about TTWD from the top of my head.


Enjoy :)

Aattitude or accountability


Book (accountability/punishment book) or bond


Connected or closeness or consistency


Discipline or disrespect


Emotions or expectations


Friends or forgiveness


Grateful


Harmony


Intimacy or implement


Joy


Knee


Love or lecture or leadership


Maintenance


No


Obedience or otk


Paddle


Q - Can't think of anything


Respect or rule


Submission or spanking


Trouble or togetherness


Unity or understanding


Vulnerability


Wooden spoon or warning


X-crutiating (bottom lol)


Yes


Zen

DD Is Like A Box Of Chocolates

My Momma always said life was like a box of chocolates.  You never know what you're gonna get.

It occurs to me that sometimes DD can be like this.  You never know what you're gonna get.

No,  I'm not talking about consistency, or lack of on my husband's part.  The emotions involved in a DD relationship are extremely strong and run deep.  DD brings greater openness and communication, love, intimacy and a wonderful closeness and connection.  All of which are positive emotions.  However, when discipline/punishment occurs, the emotions involved are often negative emotions such as disappointment, anger, hurt, remorse, frustration etc.

It seems to me that things can go from happy and positive to negative and back again within a very short time frame.  My husband and I can be having a wonderful time together, enjoying each other one minute, then something happens.  I break a rule, make what my husband considers a disrespectful comment whatever.  I don't mean for this to happen of course, but sometimes it does and suddenly wham! we are in discipline mode. Now, of course this comes as no surprise and is totally within my power.  I know how to ensure discipline doesn't happen.

Whether the discipline is brief (such as a quick 'telling off' or verbal reminder) or more involved, the emotions we are both feeling suddenly change from being positive and light hearted to negative until the  situation is 'dealt with'.  Once this happens, we resume where we were prior to being .. ahem .. rudely interrupted.  The positive emotions kick in again and it leaves us feeling even more connected (unless I'm in a sulky mood by then that is.  In which case my husband deals with that too!).

This cycle can also some days be repeated several times in a day.

The other night my husband was away from home and we were chatting online having a lovely conversation and I was feeling good.  I had broken a rule or two and this came up during the chat and my husband told me I was in trouble.

I really did not want to hear that at the time and I also didn't think it quite fair that I should be in trouble, so I gave him a tiny bit of attitude.  Oh alright -  ALLOT of attitude (jeez)!  Next minute he's sending me to the corner to think about my attitude!  Some 20 minutes or so later I was back at the computer and the conversation went something like this:

Him: Ten minutes is ten minutes.  Were you not late with your text thereby breaking your text rule?
Me: Yes, I was
Him: And did you pay the credit card bill late thereby incurring us interest?
Me: Yes, I did
Him: And as your husband is it not reasonable for me to hold you accountable?
Me: Yes
Him:  Then why did you give me the attitude???
Crap

After that the conversation then reverted back to the positive, loving conversation we started off.

I have the greatest amount of respect for my husband and truly appreciate that he is willing and able to do whatever it takes in order to ensure harmony within our relationship and household, and to protect me (sometimes from myself) and help me to be the best that I can be.

I would not like to go back to life prior to DD.  Our relationship was amazing prior to DD but this lifestyle has yielding so many benefits for us and continues to bring us even closer.

Happiness is ...

.... a good week and a good review!

In this post I explained how my husband and I undertake weekly reviews of how the week has been.  This is also an opportunity to review how I have been going.  If there have been any transgressions during the week I am punished.  If not, there is no punishment.

We had our review this evening and you know what?  My husband said we had had a lovely week together and he is very proud of my efforts during the week.

I don't mean to brag.  Ok, you got me, yes I do.  I just wanted to post this because it feels so good to hear those words from my husband and it is what I hope to hear at each review.  Unfortunately though, I think this is only the second review I haven't been spanked.  Embarrassing as it is to admit that.

There is one slight hitch though.  There was one tiny, weeny, itty bitty issue - I had made a bill payment   late.  For this, I will be writing lines tomorrow night (blick!).  But right now, I'll bask in the happiness and enjoy the rest of the night with my wonderful husband.

Golden Breaststroke

Now, I am not a sporty person at all, either as a spectator or (God forbid) a competitor. Nosiree, no way.  I would rather watch paint dry!  Except every 4 years when the Olympics comes around.  For some reason I go absolutely mad over the Olympics.  I love it and can't get enough.

The other night my husband and I were sitting having a nice quiet drink in a bar watching some of the Olympics on the big screen when swimming came on.  Women's breaststroke no less.

Hmm, breast stroke.  I think I'm quite good at that said my husband
Gold medal performance you reckon? I replied

My husband absolutely hates the water.  I don't think he was talking about swimming!