tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post2299264910359048969..comments2024-01-25T04:25:43.196-08:00Comments on Roz in his hands: Hurt, Forgiveness and GrowthRozhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-70946392848951350502012-10-22T04:26:56.558-07:002012-10-22T04:26:56.558-07:00Thank you so much Irishey, I do understand now jus...Thank you so much Irishey, I do understand now just how much this matters to Rick and will make sure I contact him when leaving and arriving home again, besides, this is a rule for us anyway which I should be following. Hopefully, this will now become automatic for me as is is for you :)<br /><br />I don't think you are a hover-nut, asking people you visit to let you know they got home safely, it shows you care and I bet they appreciate it. I bet your parents worry about you and appreciate your calls too. It is courtesy to let people know you are safe, especially if you know they worry. Whether in a Dd relationship or not.<br /><br />Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-56054495530817990612012-10-22T04:20:45.186-07:002012-10-22T04:20:45.186-07:00Hi Belle, oh my goodness, it was very lucky you ha...Hi Belle, oh my goodness, it was very lucky you had your phone on you that day. Contacting him when leaving and returning home is a rule for us as he needs to make sure I am safe. I now fully understand just how much more protective he feels and how much my safety matters to him since starting ttwd. I will make sure I always contact him from now on.<br /><br />You are right though, it makes sense and is just plan courteous to let them know you are safe if you are going to be delayed, or if you know they will worry, whether in a Dd relationship or not.<br /><br />Blessings to you and your family.Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-81317262097752064502012-10-22T03:41:20.370-07:002012-10-22T03:41:20.370-07:00Hi Ana, it was quite tough at the time, but we bot...Hi Ana, it was quite tough at the time, but we both learnt a lot from it and it has brought us even closer and left me feeling very much loved and cared for. It is hard to keep your head in the right place, do the right things all the time but yes, I certainly have the motivation now! I have a much greater understanding of just how important this is to him now.<br /><br />Hmm bedtime - well, I'm still not going early enough or getting enough sleep - but not badly enough to get in any further trouble :)Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-88251143282985514682012-10-22T03:30:58.377-07:002012-10-22T03:30:58.377-07:00Thank you so much Lucy :) It was tough at the tim...Thank you so much Lucy :) It was tough at the time, but it was something we both learnt from and has ultimately brought us closer. I now fully understand just how important matters of safety are to him and why we have certain rules.<br /><br />Although it was tough, it also made me feel so cared for and loved and things have been great since :)Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-71623933376915897272012-10-22T03:26:52.373-07:002012-10-22T03:26:52.373-07:00Hi Susie, your comments always give me food for th...Hi Susie, your comments always give me food for thought and I always learn from your experience and advice, both from your comments and your own posts. Thank you :)<br /><br />You are right, it does take a while to get used to just how much our safety matters to them and how protective they feel. I never really thought through the fact that it was something I would have to adjust to before.<br /><br />We did both learn a lot from this and although it was hard at the time, I did end up feeling very much loved and cared for.Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-80323831923628587652012-10-22T03:20:43.377-07:002012-10-22T03:20:43.377-07:00Hi Dana, interesting we have the same rule. I alw...Hi Dana, interesting we have the same rule. I always feel reassured when I hear others have the same rules as me. I now fully understand why it is in place, and how important it is to him. I guess I had underestimated just how protective he felt toward me. <br /><br />I will certainly be vigilant in future about making sure I contact him!Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-79776918891602410522012-10-22T03:15:58.024-07:002012-10-22T03:15:58.024-07:00Hi Bas, it is a simple recipe isn't it - a suc...Hi Bas, it is a simple recipe isn't it - a successful recipe for hot buns!<br /><br />I guess I underestimated just how much more protective he felt toward me since starting ttwd. I've certainly learnt that now! BTW, Rick liked your comment and was nodding in agreement with you - HoH's unite?Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-61541317839849146822012-10-22T03:11:11.292-07:002012-10-22T03:11:11.292-07:00Thank you so much Lillie, your comment made both o...Thank you so much Lillie, your comment made both of us smile. He does love me, and worry about me. It was hard at the time but we did end up in each other's arms :)<br /><br />I have been very mindful since to make sure I keep in contact with him when I am out and about and let him know I am safe. Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-79489764535495056902012-10-16T09:06:32.223-07:002012-10-16T09:06:32.223-07:00Oh, no! That sounds like quite an ordeal for both...Oh, no! That sounds like quite an ordeal for both of you. It *is* hard to keep your head in the right place all the time, but you certainly have motivation to do so. I'm glad that you could end well even if it was really rough.<br /><br />How is your bedtime going?Anahttp://governingana.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-86693710554886687872012-10-15T11:32:00.534-07:002012-10-15T11:32:00.534-07:00My husbands family always did this, so we respectf...My husbands family always did this, so we respectfully did it for them when we left their house and arrived at ours. I, however, did not allow my husband to enforce that rule on me, or tell him everywhere I planned to go, or when I was expected home. I was barely nineteen when I got married, and I was so brave out in the new world. I told him that I didn't make him call me when he went hunting and fishing, and didn't tell me a specific time to get home, and how would he feel, blah, blah, blah. He was a police officer and saw a lot of stuff. As I grew older, and especially a mother, I started seeing the wisdom behind the act. I unfortunately was not in a DD relationship, but I was fortunate that God kept me safe. A funny thing (now), happened the first time I took a cell phone to work with me... we had an argument that morning, and I left the house upset, slamming the door behind me. I had to be at work at 6am at the time. The road was pretty much empty of cars or people. I had to travel some roads that just had fields, with no houses. It was sprinkling rain that morning, and I got a blowout in a tire. Oh, Oh, How I hated calling him. He came, changed the tire in the rain, I thanked him, we kissed bye, and I went on to work. My pride, it stinks sometimes. I call him now (without a rule), when I feel like I'm going to be late, delayed, or if I see there has been a traffic accident that he may hear about and worry. He's always given me that courtesy. With age comes wisdom in some cases. I like my husband watching out for me, because I feel his love in it. God Bless You and Yours, Belle L.Belle Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10222752720181960143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-75489466485967822372012-10-15T03:36:09.883-07:002012-10-15T03:36:09.883-07:00Ahhhh, Roz....that sounds tough. Dangerous stuff ...Ahhhh, Roz....that sounds tough. Dangerous stuff seems to be a sure-fire way to get one's hubby paying attention quickly....and not the good kind of attention!<br /><br />I am sorry you got such a bad spanking :( Here is hoping things are much better by now.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05065154899098398575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-78221112981624377652012-10-14T17:55:00.599-07:002012-10-14T17:55:00.599-07:00Roz, I'm really sorry you got distracted and d...Roz, I'm really sorry you got distracted and didn't call Rick, but I certainly understand where he is coming from. It's not micro-managing or hovering. It's true care and concern for a loved one's safety. A short call/text can prevent worry.<br /><br />I'm not lecturing you, please don't think that. I know you understand this. I was raised on the safety calls, and probably still would be on driving restriction by my parents if I ever failed to make a call...seriously! To this day, I still call my parents when I arrive home safely after leaving their house. I call without thinking about it. You know, now I'm wondering if they wonder whether I'll ever grow out of that! Lol!<br /><br />Come to think of it, when anyone leaves my house, I always tell them to give me a call when they get home so I know they arrived safely. Sheesh. I'm really not a hover-nut, really I'm not! Good grief. Maybe I am. Oh, well. I don't care, because I DO care about people I care about.<br /><br />I'm really, truly sorry you received such a hard reminder of how much this safety courtesy matters to Rick. I would send you some of my auto-call tendency if I could - it appears I have plenty to spare. ;-)<br /><br />IrisheyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-27812882282452547312012-10-14T13:07:09.205-07:002012-10-14T13:07:09.205-07:00Hard lessons but you both ended up learning so muc...Hard lessons but you both ended up learning so much through it. Safety matters sooo much to them. It takes a while to get used to just how much. <br /><br />I hope you are feeling very loved.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00511114118020790717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-88196442074473962682012-10-14T10:48:44.957-07:002012-10-14T10:48:44.957-07:00We have the same rule about calling before leaving...We have the same rule about calling before leaving and after arriving when I travel. It was a rule long before we implemented DD. I once got busy after arriving at my destination and forgot to call. Since I'd left my phone in the car, he couldn't get ahold of me so he called every person I could possibly be with during my visit until he found me and then read my the riot act for not calling him. He mentioned the incident shortly after starting DD and said if I ever put him through that much worry again, I wouldn't be sitting comfortably once I returned home.Danahttp://ontheddpath.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-5568912802596759662012-10-14T09:08:46.290-07:002012-10-14T09:08:46.290-07:00Simple recipe for driving a HoH crazy:
make him wo...Simple recipe for driving a HoH crazy:<br />make him worry about your safety.<br />Success guaranteed.Bashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15378333708912059004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-77362851197186701852012-10-14T08:56:17.069-07:002012-10-14T08:56:17.069-07:00Awww.....sorry Roz. I have been through a tough t...Awww.....sorry Roz. I have been through a tough time with my hubby lately, too.<br />That protective thing is really touchy area. I think the worst spanking I ever received was because of dangerous behaviour, and I haven't forgotten it. I won't even light a candle without Ian being around. <br />Glad it ended with you two in each other's arms....well, at least I am sure it did.<br />He loves you, Roz. They worry. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12062533298458764009noreply@blogger.com