tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post8660909463092102055..comments2024-01-25T04:25:43.196-08:00Comments on Roz in his hands: The Yin and the YangRozhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-13870223697637708442013-06-16T04:27:57.066-07:002013-06-16T04:27:57.066-07:00Hi Marie,
Thank you so much for your comment. I ...Hi Marie,<br /><br />Thank you so much for your comment. I am so glad you found it helpful and that it lead to you talking to your husband. We are quite often so busy dealing with our own thoughts and feelings that we overlook that fact that he may be feeling the same way, from his perspective. I think too that the fact that he is our leader adds to this.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-74923127244314561132013-06-14T17:40:39.354-07:002013-06-14T17:40:39.354-07:00Hi, Roz. Sorry I haven't been able to read thi...Hi, Roz. Sorry I haven't been able to read this sooner, but since I was away, I missed some great stuff here! I was just reading this perspective, and I asked my husband if in fact he feels the "neediness" too...his answer was quite shocking to me, but he said, "yes." I guess I never looked at it this way, but wow, such an eye opener. It really has made me realize that I am guilty of not reassuring him enough because at times I doubt my own wants and needs. He is wonderful at reassuring me, but this post really made me think, and made me want to try harder to commit my full submission to him. I feel that he has "stepped up" at this point, and I need to do the same. Thank you so much, Roz.<br /><br />Hugs, <br />MarieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04005961884635839284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-18934053331213505352013-06-14T07:07:26.559-07:002013-06-14T07:07:26.559-07:00Hi Es May,
Thank you so much :) I'm so glad ...Hi Es May,<br /><br />Thank you so much :) I'm so glad you found it helpful and hope that it is/was also helpful in your talk with the Duke.<br /><br />You are so right, when we bring this lifestyle to our husband we do have to realise that he needs time to get his head around it and catch up to us. So many TiH experience frustration with seemingly lack of action on his part early on when really, he is still processing and coming to grips with the idea.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-27021236445684084002013-06-14T07:01:40.063-07:002013-06-14T07:01:40.063-07:00Hi Kenzie,
Thank you so much. It is always great...Hi Kenzie,<br /><br />Thank you so much. It is always great to hear his point of view. We so often don't realise that he has the same thoughts, feelings, fears etc we do from his perspective.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-75679551875286137852013-06-14T06:59:05.019-07:002013-06-14T06:59:05.019-07:00Hi Minelle,
Thank you :) I love how you said thi...Hi Minelle,<br /><br />Thank you :) I love how you said this, you are so right. We also so often overlook the fact that he has needs, insecurities etc too.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-67369160628179026342013-06-14T06:57:13.621-07:002013-06-14T06:57:13.621-07:00Hi Kiwi,
Thank you :) It is always interesting a...Hi Kiwi,<br /><br />Thank you :) It is always interesting and beneficial to hear things from the HoH side.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-32736992092967027762013-06-14T06:55:37.874-07:002013-06-14T06:55:37.874-07:00Hi Cat,
Thank you so much, you're welcome :)
...Hi Cat,<br /><br />Thank you so much, you're welcome :)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-21060742151095858452013-06-14T06:54:19.243-07:002013-06-14T06:54:19.243-07:00Hi TL,
Thank you so much :) As I said to Willie,...Hi TL,<br /><br />Thank you so much :) As I said to Willie, we are certainly no 'experts' and I was worried about coming across as a 'know all'.<br /><br />I agree totally. It is about communicating our fears and working through it together.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-56263476335879519782013-06-14T06:51:59.150-07:002013-06-14T06:51:59.150-07:00Hi Sara,
Thank you so much! I think it is always...Hi Sara,<br /><br />Thank you so much! I think it is always interesting and beneficial to see things from the 'other side'. <br /><br />I will have to see what I can do :)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-68282122581637307962013-06-14T06:50:22.437-07:002013-06-14T06:50:22.437-07:00Hi Willie,
Awe, thank you so much because I am ce...Hi Willie,<br /><br />Awe, thank you so much because I am certainly no 'expert' and was concerned this may come across as me being a 'know all'. I just found it interesting and hoped it may be helpful to some to share.<br /><br />LoL ... I don't think Rick really worried about whether I would cry abuse either! LoL<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-43403227671986935342013-06-14T06:38:41.514-07:002013-06-14T06:38:41.514-07:00Hi Julia,
Thank you :) These do seem to be very ...Hi Julia,<br /><br />Thank you :) These do seem to be very common fears for most of us. <br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-36892665080186365722013-06-14T06:36:01.430-07:002013-06-14T06:36:01.430-07:00Hi Sarah, thank you, you're welcome :)
Hugs,
...Hi Sarah, thank you, you're welcome :)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-35302973457436017012013-06-14T06:34:58.151-07:002013-06-14T06:34:58.151-07:00Hi Abby,
Thank you :)
It is so easy to overlook ...Hi Abby,<br /><br />Thank you :)<br /><br />It is so easy to overlook the fact that they need us too and that they have fears every bit as much as we do isn't it?<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-3742232046382997802013-06-14T06:33:05.489-07:002013-06-14T06:33:05.489-07:00Hi Zoe,
Thank you :) The fact that our HoH is ou...Hi Zoe,<br /><br />Thank you :) The fact that our HoH is our leader means we often overlook the fact that he has fears just as much as we do. I think in this lifestyle we each ask a lot of each other, but also give a lot to each other.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-67999879479580279902013-06-13T05:22:01.046-07:002013-06-13T05:22:01.046-07:00I REALLY needed this post. I am soooo thankful yo...I REALLY needed this post. I am soooo thankful you shared. You did not come off as a know it all at all. :) This has given me a lot to think about. The Duke has been trying to say something similar to these statements, but I wasn't quite understanding. Going to sit down with him and show him this to see if it's true for him too. :) Thank you for letting us see this part of Rick. And you're right, we spend months envisioning how it will all be, and then slam dunk our husbands into it, sometimes with no warning. We have to remember to let them catch up. lolEs Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-78238554454445875702013-06-13T05:20:09.482-07:002013-06-13T05:20:09.482-07:00Hi Lucy,
I imagine from their side of the fence i...Hi Lucy,<br /><br />I imagine from their side of the fence it must be difficult for our men to get their head around us wanting this lifestyle. Rick also says to me that he still sometimes wonder how I could want this, and just why it works. At the end of the day though, I guess we just know that it does.<br /><br />We do ask a lot of our HoH's and it is so easy to forget at times that they too struggle at times with with many of the same things we do.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-52551826368383344302013-06-13T05:14:02.491-07:002013-06-13T05:14:02.491-07:00Hi DF,
It does seem a bit odd doesn't it? bu...Hi DF,<br /><br />It does seem a bit odd doesn't it? but really, I think there is a real balance in a ttwd relationship. Dominance and submission really do feed off each other.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-57556257184827157382013-06-13T05:11:04.381-07:002013-06-13T05:11:04.381-07:00Thank you Terps,
Trust and communication are bot...Thank you Terps, <br /><br />Trust and communication are both vital in any relationship.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-81328752327199259562013-06-13T05:09:16.388-07:002013-06-13T05:09:16.388-07:00Hi Missy,
Thank you so much. You make some excel...Hi Missy,<br /><br />Thank you so much. You make some excellent points. Communicating our thoughts and feelings and realising that by doing so we are not burdening our partner IS so important, as is respectfully listening and not dismissing our partners feelings.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-4527061528497587092013-06-12T14:34:16.249-07:002013-06-12T14:34:16.249-07:00I love hearing from the other side, he had some gr...I love hearing from the other side, he had some great responses! Very thought provoking post. :)Kenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16300931055285711554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-36604795809837069922013-06-12T06:18:52.082-07:002013-06-12T06:18:52.082-07:00It is like stripping bare insecurities, wants, nee...It is like stripping bare insecurities, wants, needs and desires in order to start a new. It affects both the HOH and the TIH.<br />Great information and dialog. Minielle Labraunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16206283897752166320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-82532061926556880842013-06-12T05:06:41.653-07:002013-06-12T05:06:41.653-07:00Thank you Elle,
I think these are very common fee...Thank you Elle,<br /><br />I think these are very common feelings, both for the TiH and HoH. We often don't think about the fact that he needs us just as much.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-59630542834477948132013-06-12T05:04:43.040-07:002013-06-12T05:04:43.040-07:00Thank you bg, you're welcome :)
Hugs,
RozThank you bg, you're welcome :)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-57013143101116090552013-06-12T05:04:04.229-07:002013-06-12T05:04:04.229-07:00Thank you Sunny, I hope so.
Hugs,
RozThank you Sunny, I hope so.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-44149063083551446422013-06-11T00:42:30.428-07:002013-06-11T00:42:30.428-07:00Great post roz its alwys good to learn a hohs poin...Great post roz its alwys good to learn a hohs point of view :-)kiwigirliegirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875041768284887283noreply@blogger.com