tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post7044188795523972382..comments2024-01-25T04:25:43.196-08:00Comments on Roz in his hands: Thinking On His FeetRozhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-11224834300737040172013-03-13T02:31:56.280-07:002013-03-13T02:31:56.280-07:00Hi Clara,
Welcome! Thank you for reading and for...Hi Clara,<br /><br />Welcome! Thank you for reading and for your comment. You've given me something to think about. I hadn't thought about how this can help to build trust. A very good point so thank you.<br /><br />I think my struggle with him letting things flow instead of having it planned is that I somehow interpret this as him not being in control. I'm realising now though that he is very much in control.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Roz<br /><br />Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-18216561349779273302013-03-13T02:28:19.783-07:002013-03-13T02:28:19.783-07:00Hi Riley,
What is it with those questions? So ha...Hi Riley,<br /><br />What is it with those questions? So hard to answer at the best of times, let alone on the spot in that position LoL<br /><br />I just love curling up on the floor in front of him. It's my safe place.<br /><br />I mentioned in a recent post about calling Rick Daddy. It's always reassuring to hear others do the same or similar things. It felt a bit strange to begin with, but I do like it. It really helps to enforce our roles and I too have found similar changes in Rick. It's probably made him even more protective too!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-17057955277177072472013-03-13T02:22:36.017-07:002013-03-13T02:22:36.017-07:00Hi Missy,
It is comforting to know others feel th...Hi Missy,<br /><br />It is comforting to know others feel the same way. I'm so glad if these posts have helped you in processing your thoughts and feelings.<br /><br />Change really is good though, and it can mean growth. Taking us out of our comfort zone can be a good thing.<br /><br />My main issue here was expecting him to have everything planned out instead of letting things play out in the moment. I think I saw it that he wasn't in control by doing that, and that made it hard for me to give up control an become vulnerable. I'm realising that he actually still is in control.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-10251312064636327052013-03-13T02:11:13.613-07:002013-03-13T02:11:13.613-07:00Hi Kiwi,
Funny, writing so often helps us to proc...Hi Kiwi,<br /><br />Funny, writing so often helps us to process doesn't it? <br /><br />That's a great point too, I guess it does make it more real when they are thinking about it. I guess I was seeing him thinking on the spot as him not being fully in control. I now realise that is mistaken thinking on my part.<br /><br />LoL, I fuss and whine EVERY time! He is getting less and less tolerant of it now though. As I said in the post, he let me know that was unacceptable that time!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-45297033894354453522013-03-13T02:06:36.548-07:002013-03-13T02:06:36.548-07:00Hi Bea,
It's always comforting to know others...Hi Bea,<br /><br />It's always comforting to know others are thinking and feeling the same way. I guess ultimately changing things on us and keeping things fresh is a good thing.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-14026731082228829412013-03-13T02:04:37.558-07:002013-03-13T02:04:37.558-07:00Hi Zoe,
I think changing things around is a good ...Hi Zoe,<br /><br />I think changing things around is a good thing to, and I too think I like it more than not. I just have a hard time sometimes when Rick just lets things flow rather than having it all planned out. I think it see it as him not being in control. I'm not starting to realise though that he does remain in control.<br /><br />It's best this way really though isn't it? It allows to adjust and react according to the emotions, feelings etc and each others reactions which ultimately gives us more growth.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-68272490570980781392013-03-13T02:00:52.611-07:002013-03-13T02:00:52.611-07:00Hi Susie,
It is difficult when they change things...Hi Susie,<br /><br />It is difficult when they change things around on us isn't it? <br /><br />I know you've been thinking about this too and hope that the comments on this and the previous post have given you some food for thought in processing your own thoughts/feelings.<br /><br />As I've said to the others, I think the reason I am thrown when Rick lets things play out instead of having everything planned is that I see it that he is not in control. That in turns makes giving up control and being vulnerably difficult for me. The comments here have helped me realise that in fact, he is in control from the beginning and remains so.<br /><br />I'm going to pop by your place shortly to read your latest post :)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Roz<br /><br />Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-73060846067606318872013-03-13T01:56:33.263-07:002013-03-13T01:56:33.263-07:00Hi Bob,
Thank you. You are right, he I know that...Hi Bob,<br /><br />Thank you. You are right, he I know that he is trying to ensure we continually grow in our relationship. I suspect you are also right in that he wants to see some more growth in me.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-55334453109432563182013-03-13T01:54:40.520-07:002013-03-13T01:54:40.520-07:00Hi Cat,
I agree, there does have to be room to ad...Hi Cat,<br /><br />I agree, there does have to be room to adjust to the thoughts, feelings and reactions in the moment. It really is best this way. I'm figuring out why it sometimes throws me when Rick doesn't have everything planned out and am now realising that he is actually still in control.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-81461221694940040322013-03-13T01:52:09.117-07:002013-03-13T01:52:09.117-07:00Hi Sara,
I agree entirely with you. Doing the sa...Hi Sara,<br /><br />I agree entirely with you. Doing the same thing is not as significant and the rewards aren't as good. Rick does some of both, so there is always a level of familiarity but it allows us to truly react and respond according to each other's responses. That is a good thing.<br /><br />I'm beginning to get my head around why it sometimes unsettles me when he goes with the flow rather than planning things out. I was mistakenly seeing it as he not being in control.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-53669433263850564312013-03-13T01:48:46.283-07:002013-03-13T01:48:46.283-07:00HI Ami,
Thank you for your comment. You raise so...HI Ami,<br /><br />Thank you for your comment. You raise some really good points that I hadn't thought of. The answers to those questions would be different now than when we started out and we are indeed looking for growth.<br /><br />I also agree that good relationships evolve continually and I too do like being kept on my toes. I just have a hard time sometimes when he just lets things flow instead of having it planned out. I think I see it that he's not in control, whereas as been pointed out, he actually is in control from the start and remains in control.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-22046308862841809422013-03-13T01:38:14.427-07:002013-03-13T01:38:14.427-07:00Hi Terps,
Exactly! - I know this, and know that i...Hi Terps,<br /><br />Exactly! - I know this, and know that it really is best this way. I just have a hard time sometimes when he goes with the flow of the moment rather than having things planned out - sigh. I'm beginning to figure out why though I think. It's about not thinking he is in control, which of course, he is.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-10371223873443395442013-03-13T01:35:08.570-07:002013-03-13T01:35:08.570-07:00Hi Lucy,
You too huh? LoL. I guess change is a g...Hi Lucy,<br /><br />You too huh? LoL. I guess change is a good thing. Keeps us on our toes and keeps things fresh. I think it also allows for more growth. <br /><br />I think I'm figuring out why I have a hard time sometimes when Rick just lets things play out rather than having it planned out. I think I see it that he is not in control whereas, of course, he is in control from the start and remains so.<br /><br />Give Gracie a huge cuddle for me :)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-32261691333826429612013-03-13T01:32:10.772-07:002013-03-13T01:32:10.772-07:00Awe, thank you Lillie,
Changing things is good, i...Awe, thank you Lillie,<br /><br />Changing things is good, it keeps me on my toes and keeps things fresh. I think it also allows for more growth and closeness. <br /><br />I just sometimes have a hard time when I see that he is playing things by ear. I think I'm figuring it out though. I think I mistakenly see it that he isn't in control, whereas of course, he is in control from the start and remains in control.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-25037646425830166892013-03-13T01:28:31.433-07:002013-03-13T01:28:31.433-07:00Hi Sunny,
Thank you. You are right, it is a good...Hi Sunny,<br /><br />Thank you. You are right, it is a good thing and I think I'm starting to get my head around why him playing this by ear sometimes throws me.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-56437646463674914672013-03-13T01:27:16.435-07:002013-03-13T01:27:16.435-07:00Hi Minelle,
Thank you. What you say makes absolu...Hi Minelle,<br /><br />Thank you. What you say makes absolute sense. It does keep things fresh, especially with role affirmation and I think gives us more growth and closeness. That's a good thing!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Roz Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-30524681987325281482013-03-13T01:24:35.794-07:002013-03-13T01:24:35.794-07:00Hi Abby,
I absolutely think that is part of it. ...Hi Abby, <br /><br />I absolutely think that is part of it. I also think he has a basic idea of how he wants things to go and what he wants, but leaves the details so that he can adjust and react according to my responses, which is a good thing.<br /><br />Thank you for putting my questions to your Master. You did well guessing what his answers would be!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-21739480839360182242013-03-12T19:40:38.842-07:002013-03-12T19:40:38.842-07:00We're still really new to this but I wonder if...We're still really new to this but I wonder if not knowing what's going to happen allows you to build trust in him. Instead of wondering if he has a plan and what the plan is you trust him to lead you through the process. CAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-79548101910437822142013-03-12T18:32:08.870-07:002013-03-12T18:32:08.870-07:00Those are hard questions, but good questions for s...Those are hard questions, but good questions for sure. Sometimes Cael will ask similar ones and I usually try to just say first thing that comes to mind, how graceful or ungraceful that may be! Also, my faaaave spot is between his legs as he strokes my hair. Aww :) <br /><br />I noticed you started calling him "Daddy" -- not sure if somehow I missed that earlier, but Cael and I use that name as well, I've found it's really brought out his sweet yet strict dominance. Makes you melt! ;)Rileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01839475326755424479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-54115298364312963642013-03-11T01:25:23.040-07:002013-03-11T01:25:23.040-07:00Oh Roz
I so understand what you mean. If my husban...Oh Roz<br />I so understand what you mean. If my husband ever changes anything, I totally lose it and get confused and act out. I don't know why. <br />But reading your blog this last couple of times and the replies you've received has been making me think and it's helping. <br />Sorry I don't have any advise, but I agree with the others that change doesn't have to be bad and makes things more interesting, maybe ???<br />Sorry I'm so crap at giving advise :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-68641172620614552742013-03-11T01:12:26.412-07:002013-03-11T01:12:26.412-07:00i think you have it a nut shell in your last parag...i think you have it a nut shell in your last paragraph...but also as sara says routine comforting...on the other hand...isnt it great when they are thinking about it...for me it makes it even more real that Sir is thinking about it and coming up with ideas for himself instead of me always suggesting which takes away from the "real" side of things.<br />I think this is good...i liked your post Roz, thanks for sharing (Im glad im not the only one who fusses and whines before actually jumping to do as Im told)<br />hugs kiwi xxxkiwigirliegirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875041768284887283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-66811259586165514062013-03-10T22:59:40.303-07:002013-03-10T22:59:40.303-07:00Wes is doing his own thing as well so I can relate...Wes is doing his own thing as well so I can relate.<br />BeaBeahttp://en.gravatar.com/mybeahindnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-73915570698637189682013-03-10T20:06:46.636-07:002013-03-10T20:06:46.636-07:00Mixing it up can be a bit disorienting sometimes b...Mixing it up can be a bit disorienting sometimes but I do like more than I don't. I know the questions would have been tough for me on the spot like that. You both seem like you are doing well overall. That's nice.Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14996372521289523525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-86370055548913383402013-03-10T16:04:26.673-07:002013-03-10T16:04:26.673-07:00Well...you know I've been thinking about this ...Well...you know I've been thinking about this and MM has been throwing me for a few loops. I know I learn more when I'm taken out of my comfort zone. I don't really like it though Roz. :)Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00511114118020790717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5659327111085869724.post-52622637093903571752013-03-10T13:16:55.123-07:002013-03-10T13:16:55.123-07:00It sounds like he is going to take the two of you ...It sounds like he is going to take the two of you on a exciting journey. <br />How good is it that he keeps changing things so that your relationship don't get stale. It also sounds like he wants you to grow more. <br /><br /><br />Bob bob https://www.blogger.com/profile/15987057772360831093noreply@blogger.com