Saturday 12 October 2013

The Return Of Consequences

I know I promised part 2 to my last post.  I will get to it, hopefully shortly but in the meantime I wanted to share my current predicament with you.

Since we reintroduced Dd, rules have been reinstated but so far have not been enforced.  There has been no accountability or consequences for not following them as such.  Should any rules be broken (or bent :), and I have to say there has been some of that, Rick has talked to me about the situation and issued warnings.  I think he has been giving me time and space to get my head back in the game.

Well, it seems that time is up.  

Last night he told me I could stay up ... but to be sensible. Well now, that's trouble right there!  What's your definition of 'sensible'?  Sadly, in the end it didn't matter because the time I finally crawled into bed was not what anybody could possibly consider sensible!


I choose my actions.  I chose to not follow Rick's instructions and in doing so I chose to accept any consequences.  What those consequences may or may not be is up to Rick to choose.  He trusted when issuing the instruction that I would carry it out and by not doing so I breached that trust.

Soo ... as it turns out, tonight I will spend my Saturday night writing lines.  Lines are one of his go-to punishments. Fortunately however, it doesn't happen too often.  Perhaps that's got something to do with my, obviously currently misplaced halo?  BTW, if you should happen to trip across it in your travels, please return it to me.  I hope it's not too damaged!  Oh, did I mention that this is an initial consequence?

Am I going to complain?  Well, much as I don't like lines (they truly suck!  They are time consuming, boring ... I could go on) ...  as I woman in a Dd relationship I accept that I will be held accountable for my actions.  It is what we have both agreed to.  Besides that though, I welcome being held accountable for my actions.  I thrive on Rick's leadership and am happy that he leads our relationship.  That he takes such great care of me and helps me to be the best that I can be.  I'm happy that he cares enough to hold me accountable.

It is a step in moving forward.  I'm getting my HoH back ... and that makes me happy.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm off to find the writing pad and pen we keep around here for such occasions.  Oh, and the book we keep to record such occasions for posterity. 

BTW does anybody know of a cure for writers cramp?  Hope you have a much more exciting Saturday night than mine!

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  1. I just read your last post and now this one too, so it's an awful lot to get my head around.

    I am very happy you are back in the place where you want to be. Once again you will be able to work in accord instead of in discord, or on parallel lines instead of one of you being off at a tangent. In other words, in harmony. Because I've learned that whatever way we practise TTWD, it all comes back to being in harmony.

    Still not convinced about lines - well, you know me Roz, my biggest hate is cleaning the cooker! If that ever became a punishment I might just take the next slow boat to China! However, naughty girl, sleep is so important - we all get ratty if we haven't had enough of it! Maybe you aren't working hard enough (LOL!) as I am completely knackered by 10pm and only too grateful to sink into my downy duvet! (Can I give Dan lines for staying up till all hours and snoring on the sofa?!!!)

    Give me a good old spanking any day!

    Hugs

    Ami

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    1. Hi Ami, thank you :)

      I absolutely agree with you, at the end of the day it is all about being in harmony with each other. We aren't fully back to where we want to be yet, but we are slowly getting there.

      LoL, yes, I know you're not a fan of lines and I have to agree with you about cleaning the cooker. We better hope Rick and Dan don't cotton onto that one!

      Oh, I work hard enough ... most of the time anyway :) yet I still have great trouble with sleep. Oh yes, go ahead and try and give Dan lines. Make sure you let us know how it works out :)

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  2. Hi Roz,
    I'm glad that you two are are slowly easing back into things. Lines...I've never had to write lines and hope I never have to. I wonder if there's an app out there that can write the lines for you! It would definatly cure the writers cramp:)
    Kim

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    1. Hi Kim, thank you :)

      We are slowing getting back to where we want to be and as much as I hate lines, I'm also glad for them because this is another step forward.

      LoL Ooh, am definitely going to have to look into that app! Hmm, I wonder how well that would go down?

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  3. I like very much what you said about accountability, it really is about actions having consequences.....thats pretty much how it works for us, and i need to know that he cares enough to enforce a consequence..otherwise whats the point!

    Great post, got me thinking a lot....about being held accountable.

    x

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    1. Thank you Tori :)

      Although I may not feel this way at the time, I really do feel better and more connected when I am held accountable. It makes me feel more cared for, that he cares enough to take the time.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  4. O I hate writing lines..I don't have time for them, they are stupid and dumb lol. however like u I don't bawlk about it. well not much..I like the consistency and leading

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    1. Hi Daisy :)

      Lines are awful aren't they? So boring and time consuming. Well, I do complain, just a tiny bit some times about them, but I do love that he cares enough to lead, to hold me accountable.

      I was glad this time (well, maybe not so much at the time but afterwards LOL) as it was a step forward in getting to where we want to be. We are slowly getting there.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  5. hmm..too bad we don't live closer. i am spending my days sitting around, I could lend you a hand and some lines.....LOL! When I was in school, writing lines was a popular punishment doled out by the saintly nuns. "I will not talk in class" . It got to the point, I would always have a page a lines ready......just in case.
    Glad your HOH is back
    hugs abby

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    1. Oh Abby, where we you when I needed you the other day! I could have done with a hand ... literally LoL

      LoL, now that's a thought, perhaps I should have some lines per prepared in case. Hmm

      I was actually glad that he was ready to issue consequences again as it was a step forward in getting to where we want to be.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  6. I hear the best cure for writers cramp is heading to bed at a reasonable hour! LOL, I'm one to talk. But Nick doesn't seem to mind when I come to bed - is that what you want?

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    1. Hi Elis,

      LoL, very good point. I suppose in this case that would be the best cure for writers cramp!

      I am happy because he showed that he is again ready to lead and hold me accountable. It's a step forward in getting back on track. We are slowly getting there.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  7. Glad to hear the HoH is back in residence. Lines.... I admit I would get a load of coloured pens or pencils and practice calligraphy. My handwriting is atrocious. Keeping shaking your fingers to avoid cramp..... Can you listen to music at the same time?
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Hi DF,

      I'm so glad he is once again ready to lead and hold me accountable. It's a step forward in getting back on track. This was the first consequence since the hiatus.

      LoL, my handwriting isn't the best either and much as I try I find it very hard to line all the words up underneath each other properly, which is always a source of amusement to him ... grrr. Unfortunately, music isn't allowed. No music, TV or any other distraction.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  8. OH NO! I'm sorry! I'm glad he's stepping back up, but feel bad that it was partially my fault! I told you that this could be the thing that sends him searching for and dusting off his HOH hat!

    I love that you're not complaining. I think if you were completely honest you are thrilled that he is taking the lead in this way. I know that it provides such a comfort and stability for you both. So Congratulations! Your HOH is alive and well!

    hugs
    p

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    1. Hi P,

      Ah, if it isn't one of my little accomplice's! Just kidding! Please don't apologise or feel bad. I knew what I should have done and that they may be consequences. It was my choice to not carry out his instructions.

      Yes, you did say that .. and it turned out you were right LoL.

      I am thrilled that he is once again ready to take the lead and to hold me accountable. You are also right about that (smart lady that you are :) It's a step forward in getting back on track. We are slowly getting there.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  9. So happy to hear that y'all are back on track. I know this is what you wanted even if the punishment is not. Hey, it could be worse at least you won't be writing lines with a tender bottom.

    xo

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  10. So happy to hear that y'all are back on track. I know this is what you wanted even if the punishment is not. Hey, it could be worse at least you won't be writing lines with a tender bottom.

    xo

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    1. Thank you Bonnie :)

      This was the first consequence since the hiatus so I am very happy that he is ready to lead again and hold me accountable. It was step in getting back on track. We are slowly getting there.

      Um yeah ... I'm not sure that a tender bottom isn't yet to come!

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  11. Roz,
    Hugs!!!
    I know exactly how you feel about those lines.
    It takes strength *not* to complain.
    I also love what you said on accountability....I feel similarly.

    Hugs!

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    1. Hi Bleuame,

      You know, I had to giggle because you and I both had posts that included lines about the same time LoL. Yes, I not always successful in not complaining ... I often do .. just a tiny bit LoL.

      This was the first consequence since the hiatus so I was, and am, so glad that he is ready to lead again and to hold me accountable.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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    2. Roz,
      That made me giggle too!

      I'm so happy, you are happy with where things are. *Hugs*

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  12. I'm glad you are happy to have your HOH back. I understand the need. Sorry you have to write lines. My husband doesn't go on-line to get ideas like writing lines, and I am glad. God bless you and yours, -Belle L.

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    1. Thank you Belle :)

      I am so glad that he is starting to take the lead once again, it just feels right. We are slowly getting back to where we want to be.

      I would try and keep your husband off DD blogs if I were you! LoL

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  13. Glad things are getting back to normal.

    Lines, haven't done that since school sometime in the last century. I do remember tying two pencils together to do two lines at once. Can't remember if it worked.

    Hope Sunday is better.

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    1. Thank you Sunny :)

      LoL, I have been getting some great tips for lines. I'll have to add this one and give them a go and see if they work!

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  14. Eeeeeeeeeeeeeek....I feel like an accomplice! Yet I DID tell you to go to bed! Of course I was being very coy with your questions...What to do with my guilt. WINE! Can you Line and Wine?

    I think I would much rather take a spanking ( Rick if you email Barney, you are dead to me! ). Happy you are content with where you are at.

    love
    willie

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    1. Hi Willie,

      Well now, my other little accomplice! Yes, you did (sorta) 'suggest' I should go to bed LoL.

      Seriously, please, no need for guilt. I'm a big girl and knew the score and chose not to follow Rick's instructions (psst ... it really wasn't so bad ... but shss, DO NOT tell Rick I said that! Do we have a deal?).

      Sadly, no Wineing and Lineing allowed ... or music, or tv. No distractions. Um ... I think Rick has already sent that email. You may want to check with B :)

      Love
      Roz

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  15. Oh dear!
    I have had to write lines in the past but not for a couple of years. What a waste of time!.....oh yes, that's the point!
    Sometimes you just have to push so that you find out exactly where you stand. Now that you know where he and you do stand you can stop pushing. Easy!!

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    1. Hi Janey,

      Oh yes, a waste of time alright ... but I guess that is the point, darn it!

      If I am to be completely honest, I think maybe part of me was pushing to see how firm the boundaries were, especially given we have just reintroduced Dd. I just need to make sure I stop now! LoL

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  17. Oh dear Roz sorry about the lines. Hope they weren't too boring. Glad you two are back in the swing of things. Somehow knowing they are in charge is very settling. Here's to more fun Saturday nights in the future.

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    1. Thank you Zoe :)

      The lines were boring ... and time consuming. I could go on LoL. But, at the same time I was also glad of them (sounds weird huh?).

      It is very settling when they take charge and I am so glad he is ready to lead again. I didn't feel so safe and connected during the hiatus. We are slowly making out way back to where we want to be.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  18. Hi Roz
    love the new look :)
    Sorry you are in trouble for late bedtimes. Thankfully its not something I have to worry about while Sir is not working nights :) but ssshhhh I might be talking too soon here. I have never had to do lines, but they sound awful. I think Id rather take a spanking...but thinking back to yesterday - perhaps not.
    Oh to be good!!! ;)
    glad you are getting your HoH back :) it takes time to get back on track after a break...happy for you both
    Love kiwi xxx

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    1. Hi Kiwi,

      Welcome back! It's great to see you, I've missed you :) Yeah, it isn't much fun, they are boring and time consuming. A spanking is usually quicker at least!

      I was glad of them at the same time though, because it was a step in the right direction in moving forward to where we want to be. It does take time to get back on track after a bit of a break. Guess we both better be good now our HoH's seem to be re-emerging huh? LoL

      Love
      Roz

      Well, you know me and bedtimes! LoL. Yeah, it isn't fun but honestly, I don't know which I prefer. A spanking in some ways, but nt

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  19. Roz, I think it speaks volumes about your commitment to this lifestyle and your willingness to give Rick the leadership in your home that you are accepting this consequence! Honestly, I don't think I could make myself do lines. I guess,sadly, maybe I'm not at the point that I can truly day I am ready to be a submissive wife. I can see myself throwing a fit and weasling out of a consequence like that. We have a very long way to go! Good for you accepting your consequences with such a wiiling heart.
    Clara

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    1. Hi Clara, thank you so much for your lovely words :)

      Believe me, it is definitely not easy for me to submit to lines. I always feel at least a bit silly doing them and usually balk to one degree or other. This was especially the case the first few times ... um yes .. unfortunately there have been a number of sessions doing lines! LoL. I really had to steal myself those first few times to do them, but it has become slightly easier to submit to over time.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  20. glad you are finding your way back...glad your HOH is returning...hugs

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    1. Thank you Terps :) I am so glad he is once again ready to start taking the lead. We are working through things and slowly making our way back to where we want to be.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  21. For writer's cramp, I think all you can do is shake your hand out and keep going. :( Hmmm, could your halo be all tarnished and have a few dents in it? If so, think I found it for you on the side of an unpaved road. ;) Will try to get it shipped to you ASAP so that you can remember to get to bed at "sensible" time. ;)

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    1. Hi Es May,

      Yep, there was quite a bit of hand shaking!

      Ooh, ooh, you found my halo! Can you please make that express shipping, I think I'm in desperate need of it! LoL. I'll go to bed at a sensible time if you do :)

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  22. Oh dear Roz. Sorry about your Saturday night. I hope that the lines were the only part of the deal...but something tells me that if he is getting back into the swing of things...there may be some swinging involved.

    It's good though, if not all fun.

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    1. Thank you Susie,

      Would you believe I pretty much did the same thing again just a couple of nights later *cringing*. Oh, yes, you would believe it. You know me well enough! LoL

      So far it has just been the lines, but he did say "I need to paddle your backside"! and then said he though I needed a 'good' role affirmation session!

      You're so right, it is all good, although not always so much fun. I'm happy we are starting to get back on track.

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  23. Seems that your resident HoH Rick is back in town, Roz! :) I'm happy for you! I hope that the writer's cramps weren't too bad! Rob has never thought of writing lines. NEVER tell him! Lol!! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Hi Katie,

      Oh yes, the HoH is definitely back in residence! LoL. I have actually noticed that Rick seems a lot more confident, and showing more dominance.

      Hmm, now, do I suggest lines to Rob or not? A dilemma. Oh ok, maybe not :)

      Hugs,
      Roz

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  24. Happy you are back where you want to be... and glad I found this post. Good read!

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