Thursday 13 December 2012

DD Blog Award and Random Ramblings

Warning:  This is a rather disjointed post with lots of different thoughts. Apparantly I have a lot to say - that's nothing new according to my husband :)  If you can stomach reading further, please do so.  If not, I won't be offended :)  


First off, I should say it is safe to come back here again, I promise!  My days of HoHy'ness and spanking silliness are over.  It was fun while it lasted but my husband said I had my fun and that I had better pour myself a glass of submission find my submissive self.

Today I was most humbled and honoured to discover my blog was the recipient of a Sharing DD Blog award voted on over at A Domestic Discipline Society.  My sincere thanks to those of you who voted for these awards.

In this post, I talked about how we had both been under a bit of stress (mainly my husband), how he  had been greatly disappointed to discover his idol, Bruce Springsteen wouldn't be visiting New Zealand on his current world tour and how the Grinch had gotten a hold of me, along with Scrappy.

Rick and I would both like to extend our heartfelt thank you to those of you who left us such wonderful comments on that post.  They were truly uplifting.  Also, thank you to Wilma and Lucy for the lovely emails you sent.

I'm happy to say I took Wilma's great advice and put Scrappy out to play with the other neighbourhood pooches (although he escapes back inside every now and then).  Lucy also kindly suggested I should replace him with this



I am not entirely out of the woods yet.  Scrappy is still lurking, but I am feeling much better within myself and much more submissive and heading back to where I want to be.

I have, however, managed to ditch the Grinch and have even found some Christmas spirit.  Yay!  Rick and I put some time aside last weekend and tackled a lot of the Christmas shopping together.  We are now almost done so some of the stress and angst I was feeling has gone.

You, my bloggy friends have played a big part in helping me find the Christmas spirit with your encouragement and Christmas posts (thanks Wilma *wink*.  Also thanks to June for her wonderful Christmas Tardar Sauce posts - weren't they hilarious?)

Oh, I should warn you.  I have my work Christmas function tomorrow.  Soo ... if I happen to comment on your blogs tomorrow night I might not be making much sense after a glass of submission or two ... or three ... or four ... or -  heck, who knows!

The other day Rick and I were talking and he said the words "old married couple" in jest.  I replied "that's how it feels".  He was astounded and somewhat upset by my reply.  I quickly explained that what I meant was that things just didn't feel ... I don't know ... quite as 'exciting' as they did before.  We talked about this and wondered whether it was a case of DD becoming more embedded into our relationship and more of the "norm" for us now.  Perhaps things have just "settled" now that we have been at this for a while.  Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying we are in a rut or that anything with the relationship is not working.  Far from it!  We also remain totally committed to this lifestyle.

I am curious as to whether any of you who have been living this lifestyle for a while can shed any light as to whether this may be the case - whether we may be going through a more "settled" phase.

Anyway ... As I said, Rick was a bit shaken by my comment and asked whether he was failing in any way.  Whether he was neglecting to show his love for me.  I assured him this was definitely not the case.  Since that conversation he has been super attentive to me and so loving, whispering lots of sweet nothings in my ear etc.  He just makes me melt - and I love it!  And I love him, so much.

My poor long suffering husband has had a few work related disaapointments recently on top of the disapointment of missing out on seeing the Boss.  We were talking about the latest disappointment over lunch today and I told him how sorry I was and that I felt maybe I was holding him back career wise.  (I had my reasons for saying that which I won't go into here).  His response was that I could never hold him back and that even if that was the case he had everything he wanted right here with me and that I meant more to him than any career advancement.  I totally melted.  Those words meant so much to me. He is truly the love of my life, my soul mate.  (Remind me I said that next time I complain about being spanked! Lol).

Back to Bruce for a minute.  A nilla friend sent me these pictures today taken from the Hurricane Sandy relief concert.  Our idea of music heaven.  I'm a huge Bon Jovi fan so Jon and the Boss together is priceless!









26 comments:

  1. I'm so happy for you Roz!

    Congrats on the award- I managed one too, although I STILL don't understand what it is for?

    Dogs like Scrappy should stay outdoors- let him look through the window-but DON"T let him in!

    I understand the old married couple thing...sigh. Nice to see that Rick is trying to change that and without a paddle :)

    Ho Ho Ho !

    Lots of Love

    Willie!

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    1. Hi Wilma, I saw that you are a fellow award winner, congrats!

      I'm seriously trying to keep Scrappy at bay. I have been trying hard not to let the seasonal stress and bad attitude take over this year, and am mostly succeeding (I think!). Certainly I haven't been nearly as bad as previous years and Rick has said he is proud of my efforts.

      It seems just as thought we were in a 'settled' phase with our dynamic, which Is what I meant by old married couple, Rick has upped the ante on me and changed that, as I told in my latest post. He hasn't totally done that without a paddle though! - Sigh

      Hugs
      Roz

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  2. Yay for you Roz!

    Do not let Scrappy back in....dancing Snoopy is much more likely to keep you out of trouble ;)

    The old married couple thing? I guess I take it as contentment...not as boredom or whatever. Aren't we all striving to be that cute old couple sitting on the front porch together?? I think it is kind of sweet...but then I am weird!

    Have a great UN-scrappy kind of day :D

    ~Lucy

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    1. Hi Lucy, Dancing Snoopy is so much better and I'm hoping he will kick Scrappy's *ss Lol
      Thank you for sending him my way, that was very sweet and kind of you.

      As for the old married couple thing? You are right, it definitely was contentment I was feeling. I was just thinking we had got into a 'settled' phase with our dynamic, which is not a bad thing at all and I agree, we are striving to be that cute old couple.

      However, it seems one should never become complacent, or think you know where you are on this journey. Just as I was thinking things had become more settled, Rick has upped the ante on me with increased dominance and introducing role affirmation - Dang!

      Hugs
      Roz

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  3. Hey Roz :)
    Just visiting your blog for the first time. Congrats on the award :) and glad you're finding Christmas spirit! Lol! I'll have to go back and read more of your posts soon!!
    ~Elle

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    1. Hi Elle, Thank you for reading and commenting. Welcome!

      I saw on ADDS that you are a fellow award recipient - congrats to you too! I popped over and visited your blog as well and will have to go back and read some more.

      Hugs
      Roz

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  4. Congrats on your award - You have a great blog!

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    1. Welcome! Thank you so much for reading and commenting, I really appreciate it.

      Thank you also for the congrats and the compliment :)

      Hugs
      Roz

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  5. Dancing snoopy is MUCH better! I need to channel my inner dancing happiness as well. Christmas brings out the worst in me sometimes!

    Congrats on the blog award as well, I love reading of course, so I can see how you and Wilma got one!

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    1. HI Emi, dancing Snoopy is so much better. I really struggle this time of year with the stress of the season and have major attitude. I am working so hard this year to relax a bit more and not let the attitude take over.

      Thank you so much for the congrats and for the compliment, I truly appreciate it :)

      Hugs
      Roz

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  6. Roz,

    Congratulations.

    The Boss is over here in June.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Hi Ronnie, Thank you. Yeah, we've been keeping an eye on the tour itinerary. We would absolutely love to be able to see the Boss at Hyde Park. We have a dvd of a concert there from the last tour and it is awesome. Such a amazing crowd.

      Do you think you will see him? You lucky thing if you do :)

      Hugs
      Roz

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  7. I am glad you are feeling less stressed and are getting into the Christmas spirit! Sounds like you guys have been having some really good talks too:)

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    1. Hi Tess, Thank you. I am feeling much less stressed and more where I want to be now.

      We have been communicating a lot lately, both the fun teasing types of conversations, and the important ones. I like to think (hope) we are generally good at communicating, it is so vital to ttwd.

      Hugs
      Roz

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  8. Sounds like things are good. Have fun today at your Christmas party and thanks for the warning about any words coming out of you tonite.

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    1. Hi Sunny, thank you :)

      The Christmas party was fun. Lol, I spared you all any drunken comments because I wasn't really drunk by the end of it and because I was busy having my butt busted with role affirmation and therefore not able to blog :( What a meanie doing such a thing after a Christmas party eh! Lol

      Hugs
      Roz

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  9. So happy for you Roz! Please keep Scrappy in line. ;)

    The first thing that comes to mind when I hear 'old married couple' is a couple I knew growing up. They were totally devoted to one another - whenever they walked down the street, they were always holding hands and smiling at each other. He would open the door to a shop for her and as soon as they were both through the door, their hands reached out to the other one. One moment really stands out - they came out of a shop and he stopped, turned and adjusted her hat to make sure her ears were covered and whispered in her ear. She blushed, reached up and adjusted his scarf to make sure his neck was covered. Both turned, joined hands and walked down the sidewalk. All I could think was 'dang I want that'. So to me, 'old married couple' means in love, content, comfortable with and still caring for each other. Sorry for such a long comment, you brought back a very sweet memory for me.

    Blessings,
    Cat

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    1. Hi Cat, thank you, I am trying to keep Scrappy in line. Hopefully Snoopy will help Lol

      Awe that is such a lovely story, thank you for sharing and I'm glad I brought back a nice memory for you :). You are so right and old married couple does sound rather nice.

      I was thinking about it in terms of ttwd, that we had reached a 'settled' phase. I learned however, that you should never think you know where you are at on this ttwd journey. As soon as I did, my husband changed things on me - for the better (if that's possible) :)

      Hugs
      Roz

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  10. Well old married couple sounds pretty nice when you consider how your love will grow not stagnate.
    As to that party....I have commented a few times after a couple of cocktails. I am always afraid to go back and check what I said!

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    1. Hi Minelle, you are so right, and it is nice. Just when I was thinking we have reached a 'settled' phase in ttwd my husband has changed things up for us.

      Lol, yes, I can relate to commenting after a couple of cocktails - oops. Fortunately, I spared you all my comments after the Christmas party!

      Hugs
      Roz

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  11. If you were talking about the "old married couple" in relation to Dd, I'd for sure say that we would relate here. At the beginning it's sort of like you just got married all over again. Everything is new and all the discoveries are almost electric. Then we settled in and most of the time now it's not so dramatic. Part of who we are and all that stuff.

    I love your scrappy snoopy! :)

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    1. Hi Susie,

      Thank you for this. That is exactly what I was talking about. I'm not saying that's a bad thing at all, in fact, I think it's what we strive for. I was curious as to whether others had the same feeling.

      I have posted an update since this. Rick has brought ttwd to a new level. Just when I thought we going through a 'settled' phase.

      Hugs
      Roz

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  12. Congrats on the Award, Roz. Glad things are better as well for you and hubby.Like the pics. I watched the 12 12 12 concert last night also. Hope your party was fun.
    Take care,

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    1. Thank you SNP, Things are better here, we are in much better place now. We watched some parts of the concert on YouTube, including the bits with the Boss and Bon Jovi :)

      The part was fun, but the role affirmation afterwards? not so much :( I posed about that in my latest post.

      Hugs
      Roz

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  13. I have recently started my Domestic Discipline blog www.1950princess.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Hi Princess and welcome! Thank you for reading and for letting me know. I will pop over and pay you a visit :)

      Hugs
      Roz

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